A lot more love and a whole lot less worry, give yourself this gift today.
XO
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Friday FIVE!!
Friday Five!! 4/13/18
1: Quote: Open your heart, fling your hopes high, set your dreams aloft. I am here to hold your hand. ~Maya Angelou
2: Listening: Chandler - The Sages & Fools, a recent release by an 18 year old singer I found on Instagram. She plays the guitar, ukulele, keyboard and does some great covers on her Insta feed.
3: Reading: In my quest to learn more about time and how to be effective and productive and still have time for just me I am reading The 7 habits of highly effective people. And diving in a little to my Anatomy Trains book which is really a textbook and a very chewy read.
4: Watching: Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee on Netflix. Jerry Seinfeld, funny people and cool cars.
5: Dreaming of flip flops, warm weather, walks on the beach without a jacket and lots and lots of low tides on Eagle Harbor.
I'm really ready for the weekend, I hope you have something fun planned with people you enjoy AND time for yourself to just do whatever feels good in the moment.
XO
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Thoughts on the Day 4/12/18
"Go at it boldly, and you'll find unexpected forces closing round you and coming to your aid." ~Basil King
As I am working on all the things I have swirling in my head that I want to create and share there are times I wonder just what the hell I think I am doing. I'm smart enough to know that I don't know everything, curious enough to want to keep learning more and feel my purpose telling me to keep going you're on to something here. I'm no expert, well I am expert enough to realize that I am no expert, but I certainly have lived some life and learned some shit and realize there is so much more to learn.
I think life is fluid, like the ocean, a river or a stream. When the water runs into an obstacle, it finds a way to flow around, between or over whatever lies in its path. I aspire to be more like the ocean I so love and stay fluid, learning all I can to go around, between or over whatever keeps me from my path and purpose.
I have a curiosity about life, about people, about how they arrive where they are when I meet them or hear their story. There is so much wisdom in a life that I love to hear. Many don't realize just how much wisdom they possess, thinking that everyone must know what they know, have the experiences that are similar. What I have learned is that everyone has their own unique journey and while many may have had similar experiences they are still unique to the person who has lived the life. I think there are too many people who don't realize how powerful their stories are, how much connection and understanding can come from sharing those stories of joy, pain, sorrow, excitement, love, loss, gain and vulnerability. Not everyone is ready to share with others, not ready to ride the vulnerability track, some because they just haven't come to the space where they can, others because no one has bothered to ask them and really hear them...
I want to create a space for the hearing, the seeing, the supporting, the sharing, the celebrating and the uplifting. It's slowly coming together and it's more expansive and amazing than I ever imagined in my head. Read the Woman of the Week series and the first Monday Muse from this last Monday. These are just the tips of the iceberg of the depth of wisdom that lives out there waiting to be brought into the light.
Be Bold... I'm working on it.
XO
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Woman of the Week: Cynthia
Please join me in celebrating Cynthia or as I call her Cyn this week for our WOW. We met in 1996 I believe when we both worked for a small start up airline in Seattle. We have stayed in touch all of these years. She was the first person to tell me not to try to "drive it" and the first time she said that I didn't understand at all. Well I was still a lot clueless in my 30's. She's been a touchstone and a guide and confidante for all of these years. And Cyn, I left the last part you included because I felt it was as important as all the rest of the wisdom that you shared. Love you large!
1: If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?
Do it – but check and alter your attitude if need be.
Always do anything with love and by choice.
2: In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?
I say “no” more to myself actually. “No Cyn, you don’t want to skip Tai Chi this morning. No Cyn, you need to get to your massage, the other things can wait for 90 minutes.” So I’ve been saying “yes” to self care by saying “no” to that little voice that tries to get me to focus on things that truly can wait.
3: What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?
Focus on what you want in 5 years from now and keep that focus yet stay open to twists and turns you might find even more interesting as you go. Nothing is cast in stone unless you say it is.
Keep a budget and plan for some fun within it.
Network, network, network.
Exercise and eat right.
4: What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made? (it doesn't need be financial in nature)
The time I’ve spent with my daughter, grandchildren and friends and family. The time I’ve spent studying coaching.
5: In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?
I don’t have to do it all. Ask for help. Be ready for it to come from anywhere, even if you ask one person and they won’t or cannot, keep looking for support.
6: How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success? Do you have a favorite failure of yours?
All failures have taught me oodles. Everything is connected. Fail fast and quick, learn and adapt from it. Stay curious, even when you think you can’t. My favorite failure is more about failing and staying ‘stuck’ and not moving up and onward. It’s okay to sit down by the side of the road and throw a pity party and blame everyone, but the less time you spend there the better time you will have giving yourself your power back to move it on and kick it up a notch. Lean in to it – learn from it.
7: What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?
Seriously, Alexa – Echo Dot. She keeps track of my grocery lists, to do lists, appointment reminders better than even my iPhone does – because I can holler at her and review later, end of day, start of day. That $30 was a good choice.
8: When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?
I breathe. I sit in as much silence as I can find. I get up and move about and change my physical view of things, do the dishes, play with the dog. I take a break – whatever that looks like. Then I come back, reprioritize using a list or a self-talk and get back on it or reschedule.
9: What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why? Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life?
What You Think of Me is None of My Business – and The Power of TED – Einstein’s Dreams – and many many more. The Bible has been a great guide, especially Roman’s, the Corinthians and a few others. There’s an old Sufi book I loved, but can’t find it right now!
10: What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?
Love your body, love your mind, be kind, manage your anger (it’s just your fear in disguise) and absolutely be your best self, every day.
11: What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?
I have a hundred loves of my life if not more. Life is one long continuous stream of consciousness and as I’ve moved through it, I’m not afraid to have as many loves of my life (that life in that time) as is warranted. Is there “one” love of my life? So many ways to show and be and receive love – grandchildren, children, partners, co-workers – I have oodles of loves of my life. As to the spouse/mate kind – I’ve seen it for others but not for myself yet – every man I’ve ever loved, during the time I’ve loved him – is/was the love of my life. I think, throughout it all, I am the greatest love of my own life.
12: What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now? (what would be the best problem solved for you)
Aged, ailing parents and the system is so far beyond broken. If someone could project manage and gain the right staff and people and surroundings for our elderly – that would solve about 100% of my current issues.
It’s 722 am and I can’t think of anything else – Thanks for asking Digi-goddess – not sure it will help or do anyone but me any good to have gone through your questions – but it was insightful and made me think. Thank you sweetie – hope you are feeling better soon. More littlest lovey pics with you – and beach reports when able – LOVE to see you and hear you!!
Please join me next week for a brand new feature, Monday Muse. I will be reaching out to women who inspire me that I have met through various points in time in my life and from all walks of life. I hope to help compliment the Woman of the Week series and keep introducing amazing women from all over the world.
XO
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Titanium Tidbit Tuesday
Using 2 yoga blocks we can work to open both the shoulders and the front of the body. Good for relieving pain from too much computer work, a great way to relax before bed and open space for the shoulders and the breath to move.
Monday Muse: Joy
Welcome to my brand new feature, Monday Muse. I am reaching out to wonderful women I have met over the years in various spaces to ask them to share a bit of their lives with all of you. They inspire me for various reasons and many of them will, I hope agree to be on the podcast. This week I am kicking off this series with Joy Kruse, who is a wonderful and talented and prolific jewelry artist. I found her Wild Prairie Silver website many years ago and a couple of years ago found her on Instagram and have been following her ever since. I chose this photo to not only feature her gorgeous work but to show you her artists hands. As a jewelry designer myself I understand all too well the black fingernails and hands, the chipped nails and the sometimes scrapes etc as you work your craft. The ring on her index finger is the one I found on her website years ago and used an inspiration to create my own version in Precious Metal Clay. Joy's talents far exceed mine and I get so inspired and awed by her work. She works in mixed metals but I love her silver most of all and I am a total ring and bracelet fanatic. She graciously shared her secrets about the leather and silver bracelet on her wrist. When I reached out to her, she graciously agreed to answer some interview questions about not just her creative life, but the rest of her life as well. You will find at the bottom of the interview all of the links to her website as well as her Instagram. Thank you Joy and I am excited to celebrate you as our first Monday Muse!
1). Who or what drew you to designing and creating jewelry?
~ I was an art student my first year in college. Everyone was so good I knew that I could never make it but at that time I had only been exposed to 2 dimensional art… drawing and painting… I changed my major to Nursing. After a few years of being an RN I helped a friend make some jewelry for a wedding and then made the jewelry for my own wedding. I was hooked. That was it… I just never knew and was never exposed to metals before then.
2). Who inspires you to be your best self?
~ My husband does. He really believes in me more than anyone else and ‘over’ believes in me. He’s my biggest fan. I have to try and live up to his praise. He’s awesome.
3). What is the best purchase you have made in recent memory?
~ Some fossilized Mammoth Bone that was covered in dirt from some fella from Alaska who was also covered in dirt. Bought diamonds on the same day and plan on them going together. It was a great day.
4). When you feel your creativity is unfocused what do you do?
~ I have so many ideas and drawings and sketches that I don’t often feel uncreative, but you cannot force a design that is not coming together. It has got to flow. So, when something just will not budge and it is stuck in creative limbo I make parts…. I make the parts to chain, clasps, chain, mechanical parts.
5). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success? Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?
~ Not every piece is a master piece and it’s all a learning experience. Over the years I have found that even mistakes are a learning opportunity. You can’t expect to work a lifetime and not screw up. You can’t expect that every single thing you creative make is going to be awesome. However all of these mistakes or failures or disappointing days lead to something awesome. You revamp it, re-think it, re-do it, or remember what you did that was not working and head in another direction. The only failure is not trying again.
6). If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why? ~ Now I am wondering why I don’t have a gigantic billboard? I mean, they are everywhere, so why not? I would have on it WildPrairieSilver.com with a picture of a gorgeous natural looking lady, smiling away, wearing jewelry that is making her smile from ear to ear :) :) :)
7). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?
~ In the last five years I was able to quit being an RN. I can completely focus on my business and my family. I can work a 40 hour work week (or more) and have a day off.
8). What is your biggest problem, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?
~ Just the juggling act of wearing a zillion hats. I’m such a small business but a busy business that I feel like I am an IT pro, a tax hack, a internet web page designer, an accountant, a purchaser, a marketing guru, a photographer, a secretary, a customer service agent, a designer, a janitor, a logistics package tracker and then I am a Jeweler… and a mom and wife when the work day is done.
9). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?
~My family (taking my son to visit a college tomorrow & my daughter had a minor foot surgery today), three custom rings, and some turquoise I missed out on that I hope is still around for me to purchase
10). What would you be doing right now if money wasn’t part of the equation?
~I would be doing exactly what I am doing.
Thank you Joy for sharing your wisdom, your art and the beauty you bring to world. I look forward to having you on the podcast soon!
Look for another Monday Muse next month when I will be featuring an artist who's medium is something from my childhood.
XO
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Friday FIVE!!
That's right it's that day again FRIDAY!! Here's this weeks FIVE!!
1: Quote: I wish to live a life that causes my soul to dance inside my body... The old dancer in me really likes the metaphor. Is your soul dancing inside your body? If not, what could you change or tweak to give it dancing shoes?
2: Watching: The last Fixer Upper episode aired and while I can back and re-watch the old ones, I was looking for some other inspiration. I found the show Good Bones on HGTV. I don't watch a lot of TV but this is a good show to watch before bed, no monsters, no killing and pretty houses to dream about.
3: Listening: The latest in the Robicheaux series from James Lee Burke on Audible, The Online Marketing Marketing Made Easy podcast with Amy Porterfield and the Moana soundtrack with the baby in the car.
4: Inspiration: My Functional Medical specialist.. She told me this week that I am proof for her that functional medicine does work. She wonders sometimes if she is actually making a difference for some of her patients. When she met me, my trajectory was in serious peril for my health and in just 14 months we worked together to change not just my trajectory but to start me well on the path to healthy living with minimal pharmaceutical intervention.
5: Focus: My ladies in my Unapologetically You Mastermind Focus group and learning more about them, their lives, their mindset, their wisdom and what is forefront on their minds right now.
And the bonus extra, we are at some point going to have warmer weather and while I love a good burger made of beef, this recipe has me curious about whether it can be as good as it looks.
https://cafedelites.com/blt-balsamic-chicken-avocado-feta-salad/
Have a good weekend!!
XO
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Woman of the Week: Laurie
Please welcome this week's WOW, my longtime friend Laurie. She was one of the first people I met when I had to move during my sophomore year of high school. We've been friends a very long time and have experienced several different highs and lows through our friendship. She always has had a huge heart and I love that about her the most. Thank you Laurie for taking the time to answer all these questions! Here is her interview:
1: If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why? So many ideas, but:
“No” is a complete sentence.
Or “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday” own this and then I can say “I choose otherwise”. (Adapted from a Stephen covey quote)
2: In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?
Pretty much everything,
But to highlight one, I say no to people that attempt to shush me, using attempts at shame, insults or pretending that being positive means not calling out things that I believe are wrong in our world. I think trying to shush people belongs in libraries and maybe in church service.
3: What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?
I would encourage them to find a job, that they think they want to do, and then start working towards a career in what they discover along the way. Don’t get stuck in a type of job if it doesn’t serve your heart or soul or stimulate your brain in an interesting way. Be brave, work hard and work smart!
4: What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made? (it doesn't need be financial in nature)one thing that comes to mind is investment in my mental health and healing so I could open my heart. Family, (husband, children, parents, siblings, grandchildren etc)., friends and other friends I haven’t yet met, I hope have or will benefit from that work through my love and service to them.
5: In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life? Being patient. To breathe before action so I’m more aware of choice. Choice is always present, being aware of it helps guide me to better ones.
6: How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success? Do you have a favorite failure of yours? Failure is planned practice. If you are failing, it means you are working on something that you believe worthwhile. It is important to understand you will fail until you master it. I’m better at understanding relationship after failing often and still. I am getting better, and there is always room for improvement. Just keep working at it. I’m grateful for every day I get to wake up and practice/fail/improve again.
7: What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory? Sounds silly,
But a pair of Skechers. My feet are often in pain and these have helped me feel better. Lots of other things,
but this is the first thing that popped in my mind.
8: When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do? Breathe deeply and pray and sometimes cry. If possible I take a bath and then just break it down into doable tasks. One thing I learned from childbirth always helps me: I breathe and think-this will be over by tomorrow. I do this during adversity or something I need to do that may be tedious, painful,
Or difficult.
9: What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why? Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life?
1.Light in the Wilderness:Explorations in the Spiritual Life by M. Catherine Thomas because it is a deep amazing book that deepens my faith and keeps me asking poignant questions.
2.The Answer to How is Yes by Peter Block- empowering book. “How?” is the biggest roadblock. If the answer is Yes, you have the how will manifest. Doesn’t mean it will be easy, but it will be reachable.
3. Scriptures. I love reading words of Jesus and the love God has for us.
10: What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life? I think we meet people at the right time for each of the individuals, so I don’t really have any.
11: What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?
I’m not a believer in one love. I’m a believer in love in action. Possibilities and people show up when you are open and ok being alone. My dad always told me that love grows exponentially, the more you love, your capacity to love grows.
12: What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now? (what would be the best problem solved for you)
A personal assistant.
Thanks again Laurie and check back next Wednesday for our next WOW!
XO
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Tidbit Tuesday
Click the video below to learn about rolling out your piriformis, glutes and outer hips. Fluffy Buttocks are a good thing!!
Friday FIVE!
Yes it's that time again, Friday FIVE is here!!
1: Watching Atomic Blonde with Charlize Theron is total throwback to the end of the 80's, the end of the wall between East and West Germany and the music. Plus she kicks ass and never gives up.
2: In my ears: Podcasts, podcasts, podcasts... And MUSIC! I found a song with Chaka Khan called I love Myself, it's on repeat when I work out.
3: Quote: Attract what you expect. Reflect what you desire. Become what you respect. and mirror what you admire.
4: Inspiration: All of the women in my Unapologetically You Mastermind Group... Read the Women of the Week posts on Wednesday's on my blog to learn about some of the amazing women in my group.
5: What I'm working on: creating an e-book and online workshop that will help you start a conversation with yourself about your life, your dreams, your passions and listening to your heart.
And because I like food below is a quick little link for you:
XO
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https://www.thissavoryvegan.com/vegan-mexican-salad-wraps-creamy-avocado-dressing/
Thoughts on the Day 3/29/18
Yoga
There is a lot of controversy these days in the yoga world. Should it be regulated, who should regulate it, sexual harassment, power dynamic between teacher and student, what is safe and what isn't and the list goes on and on. I am no yoga newbie, after 25 years of practice and 16 teaching I have a pretty good handle on a lot of the aspects of yoga as they pertain to my personal practice and I continue to educate myself on host of things to bring to my students each week. No one has to tell me to do this, I do it because I am someone who has always been curious, loved to learn new things and in the yoga space I test it out on myself before I ever present it to my students.
I willingly admit that I do not know everything there is to know and the older I get the more there is to learn about longevity in practice, not just the power or peak poses. I prefer a more slow and intentional practice that explores body placement and noticing how your body moves through space, modifications as needed and truly listening to what your body has to say in each moment you step on your mat. I had to learn that my practice would change each time I stepped on the mat and to let go of expectation and to truly listen deeply to what my body was telling me in the moment. There is something to be said for some life wisdom and a long term ongoing yoga practice. Many times I wish that I had been smarter about this practice at a much younger age.
While I understand that in the last several years that most yoga studios realized the way to make money is to host a teacher training. I also understand wanting to teach for whatever reason you have personally. I never would have pursued that course without encouragement from my instructor all those years ago. I don't teach because of ego, I teach because I want to help others live a better life with yoga. I have had it change my life for the better and have seen so many of my students over the years have the same thing happen. I aspire to a healthy mix of practice and staying present in your body. I have personally witnessed so many people who are not present in their body, who don't live in their body so to speak and it is such an amazing thing to watch them find that presence.
In many things in life there is a power dynamic and yoga is included in that. I seek to pass on knowledge, have a sense of humor and to approach your practice from a space of humbleness and I never portray myself as the most knowledgeable, I am forever a student of yoga. I desire with every class to create a safe space for my students to practice and know that I am there to guide them and that I trust them to know what is best for their body in that moment in time we are together. I seek to serve. Sometimes I wonder about teacher motivations when I take classes from other instructors, any number of personal things can drive someone to teach and some of them are less than noble. As a student and an instructor I seek to everyone, including myself trust their intuition, know what feels right and what doesn't and not be afraid to speak up should they need to. It is always good to try different instructors, there is always something to learn, even if it is that you don't ever want to take from that specific instructor again.
Yoga, it does a body good.
XO
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Woman of the Week: Laura
1: If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?
Chelsea Handler said something that really resonated with me, "Laugh loudly, laugh often and most importantly, laugh at yourself". I'd like a giant billboard that reminded us how important it is to make laughter a part of every day life. I love to laugh! People in general need to laugh more often. I believe that laughing is good for your health, great for your soul and maintaining healthy relationships. My ex-husband once complained that I was "too easily entertained". I told him I considered that a gift! (Sidebar, he did not have much of a sense of humor and rarely laughed)
2: In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?
For most of my adult life, I have been the Volunteer Queen. Having three children brings plenty of opportunities to volunteer: Brownie Leader, Girl Scout Leader, Soccer Coach, Assistant Baseball Coach, Carpool,Team Parent, Classroom Parent, PTA Secretary, Reading Volunteer, etc. But there is also work related committees, and community volunteering. The word No was simply not a part of my vocabulary. Quite often I allowed myself to both volunteer and be volunteered to the point of physical and emotional exhaustion. I still volunteer, but have learned to say NO as often as I need to to keep my life balanced.
3: What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?
My advice would be to soak it all in. Every experience, every opportunity whether positive or negative outcome. Each is an opportunity to learn, to grow. Do not quit, give in or give up just because things get tough. Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Sometimes the best thing that can happen to you is to make a mistake. It is a great big world, and it is yours to conquer. Remember to see the humor and laugh often. Have fun storming the castle!
4: What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made? (it doesn't need be financial in nature)
Hands down, the best investment I have ever made is time with my children. First as a parent, cheerleader, counselor, teacher and support. Then as they grew to be the fabulous adults that they are now, their friend. There is not a better investment in your lifetime! I treasure every single moment. Second only to that is my investment in life long friendships.
5: In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?
At age 37, while totally fit and healthy and playing on three soccer teams, my pancreas suddenly decided to stop producing insulin. I was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes. No family history and I did not have gestational diabetes with any of my pregnancies. Busy volunteering and working Mom that I was, I taught myself to band-aid the situation and soldier on. Add to that a divorce nine years ago and stuck in a high stress job that about killed me, and it is the perfect recipe for depression, weight gain and poor health. I could not find success with anything I tried diet related and experienced one failure after another. I had pretty much given up! In September, without any notice, my daughter sent me a book. The Whole 30. I read it, started following the recipes. It absolutely changed my life! I have lost 25 pounds, am half way to goal weight and feel fantastic. The Whole 30 has become my new normal.
6: How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success? Do you have a favorite failure of yours?
On March 30, 2016 I left my job at the company I had worked for for 14 years. I started there supporting a Physician in a CMA role. After a few years, I worked my way up to Patient Care Coordinator. Five years after that, I was promoted to Patient Care Supervisor. I had a Practice Manager at that time who was impossible to please. Despite my successes on a corporate level, nothing that I said or did was right with her. I allowed myself to be publicly ridiculed, emotionally abused and developed some post traumatic stress. I was working an average of 60 hours per week, and still felt like a failure. I had zero work/life balance. When it began to negatively effect my health, I decided to get out. Huge, scary decision for big life changes. I now work as a CMA again. When I leave work each day, my work stays at the office. My biggest failure became my favorite failure and I am thankful every day.
7: What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?
Patent Dansko shoes for work. Multicolored with bright pink hibiscus all over them. I wear plain colored scrubs and wanted to do something fun with my day to day work clothes. They are a great conversation starter and patients love them!
8: When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?
Music is the always the answer! Feeling a little blue, turn on some happy tunes. Need motivation for housecleaning? Crank it up! Get in the spirit of the holidays? Give me some Winter Wonderland. I sing and dance.
9: What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why? Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life?
Back to The Whole 30, which I have now given to several people as gifts. I love to cook and entertain, am quite passionate about it actually, and often give books about that to family and friends. I recently read Year of Yes, by Shonda Rimes, which has had a very positive influence on my life. I realize how comical it seems since I just mentioned I have had to learn to say NO to volunteering, but I have also needed to learn to say yes to social opportunities. :)
10: What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?
Embrace your inner beauty, your strengths, your independence. Love freely but do not ever lose yourself in that love. The older you get, the more important your girlfriends become. Cherish and nurture those relationships throughout your life.
11: What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?
I am truly a romantic in every sense of the word. I do believe for some, there is just one love. I know many couples who married young and are happily married still. I met the one great love of my life when I was sixteen. We broke up when I was 18. We reconnected and married when we were both 30. We divorced when we were 48. Our lives went in two entirely different directions, and the path he choose had restrictions that did not include me or my beliefs. I have not given up on love and hope I find it again. My Mom once told me that our lives happen in thirds. The thirds may not be equal in size or experience. I have started my last third by changing my career and location, and am hopeful there will be some lovely man to partner with.....
12: What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now? (what would be the best problem solved for you)
I know this sounds cliche, but life is good and I am very thankful. However, I had a string of unfortunate events during the year after I left my killer job that have left me financially strapped. If the Finance Fairies decided I was worthy and dropped a wad of cash at my front door that paid off said debt, I would be free and most grateful. (and if the Fed-Ex guy delivering my mail was handsome with a good sense of humor, that would be most appreciated!)
Thank you so much Laura for your honesty and truth. It is incredibly powerful to read about your journey and thoughts. I have known you since we were both 16 years old and while we haven't always stayed in touch over the years, I am so thankful that Facebook brought us back in touch. So much wisdom and life lived that these 12 little questions just touch the tip of the story, but I am forever grateful for the women in this tribe who share these parts of themselves with me and now with others here on the blog.
Check back next week for another WOW!!
XO
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Tidbit Tuesday
Today's tidbit is all about relaxing!!
Thoughts on the Day 3/26/18
It's Monday and I have had a do not disturb on my office door at work all day today. I came in with the mindset that I had things to get done and though I hate to put up the sign, it has made a huge difference in staying focused on what I need to get done today. I have so many moving parts in my life that sometimes I have a hard time staying focused on just one thing. I am working on doing better with that.
I have been working on my passion project off and on for the last year. It has changed tremendously from where I started one year ago. It is now less about just my medical mystery tour and more about connection, building community and living my life unapologetically and with my truth and wisdom. There are times when the negative voice kicks in and I think I don't really have that much wisdom to share or that anyone would care. Blogging can make you feel like you are dropping pebbles out into the ocean most times. I can see from my analytics that there are people looking at the posts, that always helps, but honestly I would keep posting even if there weren't. It's the daily diary or the space to thrash out what I am feeling or talk about something that hit me like a ton of bricks.
I changed my focus last fall and have been quietly building a focus group of other women I know. We share and I am convinced after starting the Woman of the Week, that many of those women don't believe they have wisdom that is important to share. However they have responded so positively to my interview requests and continue to astound and amaze me with their truth, wisdom and honesty. Many of them are around my age, most are mid-life, some younger, but the sense of community and support doesn't see age and the ongoing connection has certainly been something that has been a joy to watch grow. I certainly don't have all the answers to all of the problems, issues, stumbling blocks or challenges, but I think having a space where women are seen, heard, supported and celebrated is HUGE... As I get ready to shift from the focus group out into the sphere of a larger audience, I look forward to finding new women to share with and learn from and celebrate.
I am working on a new facet for the blog starting in April. I am reaching out to women who inspire me, most I have met through social media and will be creating a Monday Muse interview series. They will be spread out over time as I am still building the list, but I am just as excited to share and learn with those that choose to join me on this new journey. Stay tuned for the first one coming soon!
XO
Titanium
Friday FIVE!
Friday FIVE is here again!!
1: Shopping fave of the week: It's a toss up between Target (anything and everything you need and then some!) and Ulta, the ultimate body care and cosmetics mecca. Lordy did I get lost in there this week!! But I found that they carry the Tart mascara that I love. I also learned that all of Tart's mascaras are the same formula, they just use different brushes. My eyes are so happy to have something that doesn't make them itch.
2: La Croix water, it's my favorite. I drink mostly water, filtered with a little chlorophyll in it in a big giant Hydro Flask with ice. But it gets a little tasteless and boring. I can't do sugar, soda isn't my friend but sometimes I just want a little flavor.. La Croix does the trick. My faves are coconut and the berry. I saw a Key Lime flavor last week which is new, but since I am still having issues with lemon and lime, this one has to wait.
3: Watching: The original Will and Grace. I forgot how much I loved that show. I know there is a new one and it is doing well, but I am starting by re-watching all of the old shows first. It's light, short and easy to watch a couple before I hit my bed.
4: Read: Travel the World on $50 a day. I need to be ready for all of the places I want to visit and lead retreats in. And also back to my Thug Kitchen cookbook this week too.
5: Listen: 2Pac, old Tracy Chapman, Waves by Jeremy Loops, Woman Stuff podcast.
I'm off to gather all my new gear to film yoga videos this weekend, stay tuned for all sorts of new stuff in the next few weeks on my YouTube channel and right here on the site!
Here is a yummy little smoothie recipe for you:
1 frozen banana cut in slices
1/4 cup raspberries, blackberries, blueberries
coconut water or filtered water 1/2- 1 cup depending on how thick you want it.
options: a scoop of protein powder, some greens, chia seeds, hemp hearts, yogurt, coconut milk.
PS: if you want to listen to any of my Spotify music lists, search for: yogawithsherry and follow me, you can view my lists, save the lists or songs etc. It's a lot of yoga music for the most part and I am still slowly transitioning from Napster so the lists are still small at this point.
XO
Titanium
Thoughts on the Day 3/22/18
This is one of my favorites... There are days when I just do not have the capacity to give any more fucks about anything else. When I am feeling low, haven't had enough sleep, my immune system is fighting something, and I haven't had enough to eat, I can get really gritchy (that is a mash up of the word grouchy+bitchy).
So this leads me to working on my time expenditures during the day. Getting lost in the weeds, spending too much time on social media, not getting up when the alarm goes off, over scheduling myself and definitely not getting enough exercise can all lead to a huge ball of hiss. If I don't get moving in the morning due to lack of sleep or spending too much time messing around with my phone I feel like I am behind all day. I'm a woman living a very full life and I have all sorts of things I am trying to accomplish in the hours of the day. I know that especially now that I am still dealing with autoimmune issues that I need to have a rock solid evening routine as well as a morning routine. I do better with the evening routine I'll admit. I am still in test mode for the morning one to see what actually really works for me and what doesn't.
I just want to find the best mix that works for me to be productive, have time for myself, for rest, for creating and for spending time with people I enjoy. I am compiling a whole lot of info and testing it out over time. Once I figure out what really works and creates the least amount of added effort I am going to put it all together in some sort of a guide. Why you might ask, because there is a lot of info out there and it takes time to dig through it all. I have gotten lost in the weeds more times than I care to admit and maybe some of you might benefit from my trial and error.
I am relatively happy person, yes, I have an edge and yes I can and do get pissy when things go wonky. Hey, I am human just like everyone else. I just want to live with more intention, less expectation and let it all flow like water. I want to make myself a priority and give myself the time and space for creative thought and my own yoga and meditation practice. And get all the shit done I want to accomplish. It's a balancing act and being intentional is the key to maintaining as much balance as possible in any give point in time. And when all else fails and I have a break down, I have to limit the fucks I give. I am sure many of you have your own version of the wheels falling off the bus for you, it's ok, we all do.
Happy Thursday, we are sliding into the weekend!
XO
Titanium
Woman of the Week: Nicole
Up this week for our WOW is Nicole. I met several years ago when I started teaching yoga in the office where she worked. We became friends and since then there have been many hours spent talking, laughing, eating and hanging out. I just love this woman, she is bright, funny, insightful and multi-faceted. The picture above is one she took while flying, yes Nicole is working on becoming a pilot. She is also a graphic artist in her day job and has a love of coats with hoods.. Her interview begins now:
1: If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why? it'd be my favorite motto in life: "this too shall pass..."
2: In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?
smoking cigarettes! ha. true story though.
3: What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?
this is interesting because a) i didnt graduate college and b) i have had my fair share of good jobs and bad jobs all while NOT having a degree. i personally dont think degrees are necessary but they probably do help ;) point is most, if not all, jobs are [career] stepping stones in my opinion. just do your best with where you are and you'll be proud of yourself no matter what.
4: What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made? (it doesn't need be financial in nature)
honestly, one of my best/most worthwhile investments was in myself and my health. my life is much much MUCH better for giving up cigarettes -- i really had to dig deep in to my jar of self-discipline & self-awareness to figure this out.
5: In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?
see above ;) believing in myself was almost as big of a feat as quitting smoking itself. was a 15+ year struggle that's for sure. but once i conquered this i continued to believe in myself in a lot more ways than i ever expected to.
6: How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success? Do you have a favorite failure of yours?
it took me at least a million tries to successfully quit smoking. the last time finally stuck (it's been 1 year, 7mos and counting).... i'm well over 100% positive i will never take up this habit again.
7: What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?
i can't think of anything specifically off the top of my head for this one ...
8: When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?
i probably hit the panic button at first -haha- but then walk away from whatever it is that's frazzling me and breathe. or try to. and try to take things one at a time.
9: What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why? Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life?
ive gifted books that others wanted but have only suggested ones ive read that are: the alchemist, by paul cohelo; daring greatly, brene browne; stillness, a guide to finding your inner peace, joseph kauffman (and right now currently reading when things fall apart, pema chodron; as well as the highly sensitive person, elaine aron --- which ive already recommended to a lot of people)
10: What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?
My advice is do your best to live by the 4 agreements (don Miguel Ruiz) ... i was introduced to this within the last year or two and it's helped wrap my head around a lot of things i get tripped up on. i would give this advice to anyone, honestly... (in case you haven't read it : The Four Agreements are: 1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love 2. Don’t Take Anything Personally Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. 3. Don’t Make Assumptions Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. 4. Always Do Your Best Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
11: What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?
i think we all experience great and different loves of our lives throughout our time. whether it's friends, romantic, our pets, and/or even your passions.
12: What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now? (what would be the best problem solved for you)
more free time at night. commuting five days a week to the city really diminishes my free time and the things i can get done in the evenings ... and that's all i gotta say about that ;)
Thank you Nicole!! I particularly love your answer to question #11, it's all about perspective. Thank you for your honesty and your vulnerability to talk about the things you have been working on to live your best life.
Stay tuned next week for another WOW!!
XO
Titanium
Tidbit Tuesday
Let's talk about foot care. The better you take care of your feet, the better your balance, stability and agility. Plus when your feet hurt, everything hurts!! Be kind to your feet!
Thoughts on the Day 3/19/18
Transparent: free from pretense or deceit, characterized by visibility or accessibility or information especially concerning business practices.
Why do I feel being transparent is important, well I personally do not like to be misled and so I don't want to misrepresent myself either. I aspire to be transparent in who I am and live my life as honestly as possible. Now I don't think that everyone needs to know everything but I am pretty willing to share something when asked and especially in the hopes of maybe helping someone else find answers they are seeking. If something I have been through resonates and is helpful then I feel that everything I went through to get to where I am was worth it. I have had to learn some hard lessons along the way and looking back I sometimes wish that I had more knowledge at the time to make a better choice. I've lived some life, had some adventures and have the stories both good and bad on my path to living a more authentic life that resonates on a deeper level.
I created Titanium Blonde with the desire to build connection and community with other women, especially women in mid-life, but I enjoy people of all ages.. As a woman over the age of 50, I find myself no longer the target audience and what is targeted to my age group is anti-aging this, look younger that, adult diapers, pharmaceuticals, or planning for my retirement. I hate the word anti-aging and I really am unhappy with the way our culture doesn't value maturity and the wisdom of our elders. We find ways to warehouse our older members of society and leave them there instead of including them in society for the better of all involved. But I digress...
The reality is that women of a certain age have money to spend, are finding more and more ways to stay vibrant, engaged and reinvent themselves. We are also in some instances living very full lives that may include still caring for children or grandchildren, working full time and in some cases caring for elder family members. It means we are tying to do it all and many times we don't make the time to care for ourselves as a result. In my search to find ways to age healthily, stay as active as possible and take care of myself as best I can, I have learned a lot along the way. I'm seeking out what works for time management, what products really work to support my desire to be as chemical free as possible (and not be too crunchy) and how I want my life to be on a daily basis. I know that many times I am rushing to get out the door, gone from home too much and not giving myself the time I need for creative thought and problem solving. Time management sounds so dry to me, what I am in pursuit of is ways to make better use of the time I have. To make sure that I create pockets of time to read, write, meditate, self care and stay off the couch and in front of the TV. All of my discoveries I am sharing with the community I am building and getting feedback.
What I know is that women are dynamic, don't always believe that they have valuable wisdom to share and sometimes they have lived through so much that they have lost track of who they are and what their passion is. This blog is a space where I post things that inspire me, intrigue me, cause me to step outside my routine, broaden my horizons and share along the way. If I can't be transparent while doing that, well that isn't going to work out well at all. I'm real, in the moment, sometimes no holds barred, sassy, joyful and love to laugh and have fun with people who don't take life too seriously. I have come to the point in time in life where I realize that time is getting shorter and I want to explore and do all of the things that feed my passion, satisfy my curiosity and have some unplanned adventure. I am seeking a full experience and still make the time for taking care of myself along the way.
So that would be me, with some other bits and pieces sprinkled in and my desire is to help as many other women as I can, while providing a space to be seen, heard, supported and celebrated.
XO
Titanium
Friday FIVE!
What caught my attention this week:
1: Quote heard on the Goaldigger podcast: We don't have a time problem, we have a priority problem. (this hit home like a Mack truck)
2: Music in my ears this week: Wailin Jennys and Rising Apalachia, all the female harmonies and gorgeous melodies.
3: Rolling out the kinks with my Roll Model balls.... I can't stress enough how much a daily 10-15 minute session rolling out some part of your body can help you ease pain, increase range of motion and alleviate habitual patterns of motion. Coming next week a video how to for rolling out your feet.
4: Teaching my granddaughter how to use her fingers to show she is 1 year old. Next up Down Dog for a start on the yoga fun.
5: Podcast: Here's the Thing with Alec Baldwin. He has a great interview style and has some interesting guests on.
And because we sometimes need a little snack but don't want to get to outside the healthy eating spectrum (well for some of us), here is a healthy fry option.
https://www.veganricha.com/2015/10/baked-fries-with-garlic-sauce.html
XO
Titanium