Ladies of the Pod

My podcast adventure began about a 15 months ago. I had an idea for a podcast and absolutely no idea on how to create one, much less how to edit and produce it. Thus began some frenzied idea sessions and my business mentor Pat telling me to take the last two months of 2017 and collect some info and take my time to let my creative ideas have time to marinate. That started me on the path of listening to all kinds of podcasts, by all sorts of people, covering a myriad of topics. I listened to style, voice, topic and format. I discovered a lot of men doing podcasts and with time found more and more women. I kept track of things I liked, things I didn’t, found a great episode by Amy Porterfield that gave me all sorts of info about the tools of podcasting.

From there I joined several online podcast groups on Facebook and started reading posts and asking questions. At the same time I had created my Unapologetically You focus group and started asking some questions and then came up with the idea of creating the Woman of the Week series with the weekly blog post interview. In the beginning some of the women weren’t sure they had anything to offer, but the series picked up steam and I had so much fun learning about these ladies and celebrating them every week.

In the midst of that I started the Monday Muse series that were ladies I found on Instagram. I reached out to several and got such positive response. I knew that when I was ready to do the podcast that I wanted it to be about women sharing their stories, just like the blog post interviews. While I was trying to figure out how I wanted the format to take shape, I was listening to a Tim Ferris podcast episode and he had a guest on that was talking about what the key elements are for a podcast. Tim’s response was that he wasn’t that structured with his and the guest gave me the words I needed to move forward. While Tim said that he wasn’t very structured, his guest said you have shape that is important and allows for spontaneous conversations to happen.

After that I worked on finding the tools I needed without spending huge amounts of money and my title, Titanium Blonde Talks. From there I spent several hours just recording myself talking into a microphone and getting comfortable. Then I started reaching out to women to offer invitations to be a guest. It took much longer than I ever anticipated to pull it all together and even longer to work out the editing piece. There were a couple of glitches with the interviews and my old lady WiFi connection that caused more delays and needing to re-record a couple of episodes. The editing was still my main struggle until I found a great YouTube video that showed me the pieces I was missing and I was off and running.

I recorded a couple of solo episodes, finally got approved by Apple Podcasts and uploaded my first two episodes after the intro. In the meantime I sent out DM’s and emails asking ladies if they would like to join me for an interview. Luckily my friend Brittany was my first interview, our second try at recording worked and I started getting more yes’s from my requests.

Fast forward to today and I have 9 interviews live, 4 more recorded that need editing, several more on the schedule to record in January and a brand new monthly series sparked by one of my interviewees. Our first Topic Talk went live in December. It is multiple guests and a specific topic with a free form conversation sharing our own experiences. The chemistry was great, the conversation interesting and I am so grateful to my guests Jenna and Bentley for trusting me to go on this journey. We just recorded our second episode yesterday that will be live on the 25th and had a special guest join in this time as well..

I have had such great response from the majority of the women who have responded to my invitations. For many it is a big step outside their comfort zone and I am so appreciative of their time, honesty and willingness to share part of their lives with me and my audience. My desire with all of this was to create a space for women to share, to create connection and community and to have a safe platform for all of that to happen. It is fluid and growing and changing as time goes on. There are so many women out there seeking some of the same things I was and I have learned so much more than I ever anticipated about the woman who join me on the pod. The stories that these women share are incredible, as incredible as each of the women are.

Thank you to my ladies of the pod, you are now all members of the “Pod Squad” , thank you to all of you who have listened and followed me on this journey to create this space and continue to celebrate women from all walks of life. There is room at the table and you are welcome to join me!

XO

Titanium

Monday Muse: Kathryn Budig

This week Kathryn Budig is our featured Monday Muse. She is a yoga teacher, author, podcaster and foodie!

1). You have a substantial yoga career, how has your teaching style changed/morphed over the years?

It’s always in flux. I started out obsessed with asana, particularly arm balances, because I came from a regimented ashtanga background. And then I fell in love with backbends and the challenging surrender they evoked. I eventually started teaching more concepts — my aim true philosophy — and now blend my love of storytelling, food, personal philosophies and asana into my teaching.

2).  In your personal practice what if anything has resulted in you having an “ah-ha” moment that you still carry with you onto the mat?

That there is always room to change. It’s easy to get stuck and feel like there’s only one way to success or happiness, and I’ve learned that simply isn’t true. Even though change and stepping outside of the norm can be exhausting and terrifying—it’s worth it.

3). Who inspires you to be your best self?

My wife always challenges me to be better. Seane Corn pushes me to be the best teacher possible, and I find constant inspiration and joy in my dog, Ashi.

4). What is the best purchase you have made in recent memory?

A trip to Santorini. All of my best purchases have been traveling to places because it gives me amazing memories.

5). When you feel your creativity is stalled what do you do?

I try to turn off my phone. I’ve noticed my creativity is dulled by too much scrolling and absent-minded time on my phone/computer. I start seeing more detail and get small patches of inspiration when I do this.

6). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

I’ve come to trust that if something doesn’t happen for me, it wasn’t mine to start with. It’s a terrible tonic to swallow, but it’s absolute truth. I always do my best, and know that if I keep true to the intention behind my projects as opposed to the specific results, I’ll always find the right home and audience for my creations.

7). If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Focus On What’s Working — because it’s too easy to waste time fixating on the things that hold us back.

8). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

Allowing myself to exist in a land without answers. I always needed to know things were going to be okay and on schedule, and letting go of that grip has allowed me to find solutions and alternate paths when things don’t pan out the way I want.

9). What is your biggest problem, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?

Allowing myself to exist in a land without answers. Yup, the exact same thing that I’ve most benefited from. Ain’t that always the case?

10). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?

Getting married, the future of our podcast, Free Cookies, and what I’m making for dinner.

11). When does your curiosity create difficulty?

My curiosity only gets me in trouble when it leads to comparison.

Kathryn, thank you so much for your honesty. I love your billboard message, I am going to have to write that one down. Since this interview happened, Kathryn did get married and Seane Corn officiated the ceremony. Congratulations Kathryn and Kate!! Stay tuned, we are working on getting a time together to record a podcast interview soon!

Ciao

Titanium

Monday Muse: Phoebe Sherman

Please join me in welcoming this week’s Monday Muse, Phoebe Sherman. Phoebe is a yoga teacher, an artist and an entrepreneur/creator of Girl Gang Craft. She’s a lady boss working it all! Phoebe is also a guest on an upcoming episode of the Titanium Blonde Talks Podcast.

1). What lead you to create Girl Gang Craft?

Girl Gang Craft was created by accident. I was gathering a group of ladies to put on a craft show at our friend’s Bike Shop / Cafe (Luckyduck Bicycle Cafe) and somehow I ended up making a website and an instagram. The rest is history! We’ve kinda exploded since.

Since then Girl Gang Craft has expanded to so much more than a craft fair. We have a clothing line and an accessory line designed by me. Our uterus line brings in 10% to Planned Parenthood and we have given them over $1200 to this date. We hosts workshops and community events, and help women build their brands. We do logo design and web design and help women run businesses to be the best they can be!

2).  Where do you go to experiment?

I think I don’t experiment enough. I would love to paint more for fun. What keeps me sane though is my yoga practice. I am a Mysore Practitioner, so I get up every morning ( ok maybe 4 mornings) and go to the yoga studio and do my thing. It is a vigorous physical practice. I am also a big sun lover. When I need to reset I just go lay down on my driveway and soak up that afternoon sun. Having time to myself makes me much more creative and focused after.

3).  What do you purposefully leave undone?

My bra clasps when working. heheh jk.

I am learning to leave more things undone! If I have a do to list, I tend to want to get them all checked off as soon as possible. I’m learning it’s ok to pace myself and do a little less.

4). What is the best purchase you have made in recent memory?

My big girl computer!

5). How has your past shaped who you are?

As an avid feminist and artist I can’t think of anything I’d rather be doing right now. I even studied feminist studies and art in college! Somehow I’m actually doing something in both fields. As someone who has had a difficult relationship with my body, I am happy to be creating a body positive, feminist community.

6). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

I think yoga has taught me that everything is a practice. My business, my relationships, my day to day, we’re all just trying to do the best we can. I have learned to not be so hard on myself, I have learned that this whole life is a practice and all you can do is show up with integrity. I strive to slow down always, the Virgo in me has a hard time with that!

7). If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Fuck Trump! ? That’s all I can think of right now. Or perhaps something more positive. My favorite quote is “Well behaved women rarely make history” -Laurel Thatcher Ulrich. I’ve had a small pin with that on it since I was like in 2nd grade. I think we need to be loud and question everything. We need to deconstruct what we think is fact. We need to strive to be better and speak our truth.

8). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

That I am highly capable and that I am able to manifest anything I can desire. But also with some knowledge that I am able to do these things because of my privilege. There is a meme by @riseupgoodwitch “Maybe you manifested it, maybe it’s white privilege” which is sooo true. I am so so lucky to be where I am today and to center myself to bring in abundance. This  is an absolute direct result of my privilege. That being said, I do believe in my power to create and manifest.

9). What is your biggest challenge, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?

Doing too much!

10). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?

Usually food. Then my to do list. Then food. :)

11). What does approaching a breakthrough feel like?

Breakthroughs seem like a big word. I think of small victories.

I am just content to look back at all I’ve accomplished this past year as a whole. Girl Gang Craft is turning one and we are having our biggest event yet August 12 in Oakland at Classic Cars West with 52 vendors. I am so happy to be able to foster a positive nurturing community. I cannot wait to see what is in store for our next year. We are manifesting events in multiple cities. I can’t wait!

Thank you Phoebe for sharing your wisdom and insight. You can find Phoebe on her websites:

https://www.girlgangcraft.com/ or http://www.phoebesherman.com/

Below are a few of her photos and stay tuned for her interview on the podcast coming soon!

Woman of the Week: Jackie

This week's WOW is a longtime friend and yoga student.  Both Jackie and her husband Dave regularly came to my yoga classes in Poulsbo for years.  They travel often to offer vet services to foreign countries that need assistance, have a sweet Air Stream trailer and a bundle of grandkids they love and adore.  

1). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

I finally figured out that it is ok to say no.  It’s very liberating to realize I don’t have to please everyone.  I still want to be there for the important people in my life and by letting go of toxic relationships I have more time for those people.  It has also allowed really good friendships to blossom.

2). What is an unusual habit or an absurd thing that you love?

I don’t know how to answer that. 

3). What is the best purchase that you have made in recent memory?

The best purchase has definitely been our Airstream.  I never thought I would want to own a travel trailer but it has been a good purchase for us, we’ve already taken a road trip with two of our grandkids and hope to create more memories taking many trips in the future. The bonus is that we can take our dog with us.

4). If you could have a giant billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Find something to be grateful for every day.  When we can find something we are grateful for even during our worst days it can change the way we deal with hardships and makes us appreciate the good times.  I think finding gratitude for even small things keeps us grounded

5). When you feel unsure or overwhelmed what do you do?

Every time I’m faced with difficult situations I turn to my husband and we work it out together.  One of the best things about of our relationship is that we just naturally support each other when life throws crazy at us.

6). What is your biggest problem, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?

The little voice in my head.   I am a positive person but I can be my own worst critic. 

7). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

As I have gotten older and had to learn many life lessons I realize that there is life after failure and I have to let go of what’s not working in order to open the door to better things.

8). What is the most memorable thing you have received in recent memory?

My last birthday present was a show at Disney World with all four of my grandkids.  Anything that involves my grandkids is guaranteed to make me happy.

9). Who inspires you to be your best self?

I would have to say my grandkids inspire me.  I want the best for them so I know I have to lead by example because they are paying attention.

10). What would you tell your 21 year old self?

You are a strong woman; don’t give someone else the power to silence your true self.

11). What would you be doing right now if money wasn’t part of the equation?

I would travel a lot and take my family with me as much as possible

12). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?

I am trying to stay focused on my commitment to be my healthiest self.

I am worried about the negative energy that is surrounding us right now.

Having just come back from Uganda the poverty I saw in the small villages is definitely on my mind

Thank you for sharing Jackie, I miss seeing you in yoga class!

XO

Titanium

Monday Muse: Brittany Hoogenboom

Please join me in welcoming today's Monday Muse, Brittany.  I met B several years ago on Instagram in some yoga challenge.  So much has changed over the years since we met.  She has embarked on a whole new career path and 9 days ago we got to finally meet in person after talking about it for all this time.  Please join me in welcoming her to the blog today!

1). You have made a big change in your career life recently, what sparked the transformation for you?

The freedom of living my truth and knowing that I am supported not only by my inner being but those around me sparked the transformation. Living my truth has also brought financial freedom and financial wealth in a way that I never imagined. I am more excited about my life than ever before and the fact that I get to spend everyday doing what I do, connecting to source energy, guiding others to do the same, loving life, spreading love, dancing daily, being my own boss, this life is so magical.

2).  What mistake would you make again?

This question is like a paradox. There are no mistake that I would make again because all the mistakes made were divinely planned at the time they were made for growth in that moment. I am transcending my being to align with the highest vibration of myself and if it chooses to have me make a mistake again to learn something over in a new light I receive it by going with the flow.

3). Where do you feel most nurtured?

I feel the most nurtured in my own skin every moment I take a second to reconnect with my breath or dance. When I am smiling and beaming gratitude for all of life.

4). What is the best purchase you have made in recent memory?

The best purchase I made was Thought Cloud CBD and I fell so much in love with the Cannabis medicine in that form and for the company that I joined their affiliate team!

5). How do you build endurance?

I use affirmations and dance. Life endurance comes from connecting with yourself through gratitude and everytime I move my body to music I give thanks for the fact that my body is able to move in the way that it does and that I am living in this life doing what I am put here to do, to spread Divine Love.

6). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

Like one of my hero’s Anjua Maximo  (@the_electriclife)  said “We fail up.” Failure gives you opportunities to grow! There is no wrong failure! Choose to grow from that space by reaching for the light in a new direction.

7). If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

haaa I love this question it was say “I AM A MAGICAL MOTHA FUCKER” because when people would drive by to and see it they would be repeating that affirmation to themselves and fuck has passion in it, with that intention of course.

8). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

It would take me years to write all of that but one thing that has truly transformed my life is the understanding of how the law of attraction words in EVERY area of life. From money to getting your kids to listen! The Universal Law of Attractions is POWERFUL and I don’t think many people realize how powerful it truly is. I live my life like a vision board and I am grateful to be able to do so because I am attracting all that I want in my life in the name of Divine Love.

9). What is your biggest challenge, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?

My biggest challenge is continuing to align with my truth and keep my boundaries and create the life I want through my words and actions in my marriage because my husband doesn’t put as much conscious energy into his life so I keep reminding myself to listen to my heart, to listen to my intuition, to transmute and create from the law of attraction even if he doesn’t choose so. I AM mastering it and I continue to create all that I seek and want in my life and all that is seeking me at the highest vibrations. I trust in my higher self and occasionally I catch myself letting his worries pull me out of that vibration and I have to talk myself back into a alignment.

10). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?

On my mind right now is growing my business by expanding the 4 week coaching/mentorship session because this is the most exciting thing in my life right now and I am excited to have more and more people join me! I get to go visit one of my best friends, Christina (@Christina_Sutra) who I have met on instagram. I literally booked my ticket as I was answering these questions. Weaving my dreams into reality. I am excited to continue to weave my dreams into reality. I am excited to guide millions and millions of people to self love and connecting with their highest truth to live their truth, and I am excited to become a young millionaire while doing so.

11). When are you the most observant?

When I taking a deep breathe and in a space of gratitude

Brittany, thank you so much for sharing with us!!  Stay tuned Brittany will be on an upcoming podcast episode soon!!

XO

Titanium

Woman of the Week: Sue

Please join me in celebrating Sue this week.  She is my friend Cyn's sister and while we have never met in person, we stay in touch with Facebook...

1). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

Faith over fear

2). What is an unusual habit or an absurd thing that you love?

something i want to try and hopefully will become a habit is stand up paddle boarding

3). What is the best purchase that you have made in recent memory?

Bought a new jeep  first new car IN OVER 14 YEARS AND i LOVE IT  Just not a fan of having to pay for it.:)

 you could have a giant billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Be sure you vote  Ths is so very important now

5). When you feel unsure or overwhelmed what do you do?

Retreat to think thing out and regroup

6). What is your biggest problem, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?

Taking care of my husband

7). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

When thngs dont go as expected  go your own way

8). What is the most memorable thing you have received in recent memory?

a bike charm from my son with a heartfelt note about our bike trip to the south if France

9). Who inspires you to be your best self?

my kidas and my grand kids

10). What would you tell your 21 year old self?

get ready for the ride

11). What would you be doing right now if money wasn’t part of the equation?
Lving on the beach in Kauai

12). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?

gettin my house on the Big Islamd done on my budget

the craziness sthat is happening in our countrty

How to enjoy the rest of my life

Bonus question:

When does bravery become foolhardy?  this is a toughy  Not sure that it does ever if you beleive in the cause and can make it work.

Thanks Sue!  As a new car owner myself after 15 years I understand the love of the new car and the not so much about having to pay for it...

XO

Titanium

Monday Muse: Anjua Maximo

Please join me in welcoming this month's Muse, Anjua.  Anjua, is a Life Coach, Speaker, Entrepreneur and a Mama.  I love her thoughts around what balance looks like for her, check out her interview for her wisdom.  

1). What lead you to create your physical fitness center? 

When I first began as sensual dance instructor in LA I knew that some day I wanted a place of my own. Little did I know that the vision would come to fruition in Cleveland, Ohio.  At the heart of it, having a studio meant a chance to create a space where people felt a part of something very cool but not exclusive. The studio was to act as haven for those people seeking community, good music and good vibes. By hiring both instructors and a front of house team that were aligned with our values of community, personal growth, fun – to name a few – we also knew they would also impact our guests. Then the guests would hopefully take that impact through out their day with them. The power of energy transfer between humans is what I like to think of it as.

2).  When are you most observant?

Not sure. I feel like I’m observant most of the time. I feel things deeply; I am in gratitude over the tiniest details and moments that are beautiful to me. I naturally have always been inquisitive and wonder how things, people work.

3).  What role can silence play in a conversation?

I have a little thing I write on a paper and eventually taught myself to remember when I first began coaching others, which is W.A.I.T. – Why Am I Talking? Many of us are waiting for out turn to speak and it’s actually in the active listening that you get the most information about what is ACTUALLY being said/felt by the other person. 

4). What is the best purchase you have made in recent memory?

My gray tulle skirt for under $30 on Amazon. Always loved tulle skirts J

5). When have your instincts led you astray?

Never, it’s only when I don’t follow that I find it’s always lead me astray. Your instincts may lead you to a decision that is challenging or even difficult but I don’t believe it will lead you astray.

6). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

I’ve learned that failure is not a dirty word. It can be tough, painful even but with a different mindset it can be the very thing that can actually lead you to your success eventually. I’ve learned to work with failure by accepting that it will be part of almost every experience where risk is involved. I came to use those failures as education. Why didn’t it work? What can be done differently next time? What do I need to come to terms with and let go of? What do I need to stand my ground on? So you use it all to learn and grow from. I also learned to let go of one of the biggest fears around failure, which is, what will others think. Well usually the people who had the most to say about my failures were not out there taking risks of their own, so I learned to not listen to that set. To borrow loosely from Brene Brown; if you’re not in the arena slaying with me please shut the fuck up.

7). If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Compassion

Empathy

Love

Why would you accept anything less? Why would you give anything less?

8). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

That balance does not exist in the way we’ve come to believe it’s supposed to. I no longer see it as everyday being a success if every quadrant of my life got what it needed. It’s just not possible to achieve that daily and because of that many of us feel like we’re failing all the time at balance. What I’ve come to realize is that balance is going to be a little different everyday. Sometimes my kids will need my attention and I’m ok with that meaning that I may have to miss an event at work. Vice versa, some days my kids have learned mom and dad will be working a lot that day so they won’t get as much of our attention. But they have come to trust that they will get it ten fold when I am focused on them. It’s a give and take daily but if all the most important parties involved are enrolled in your process then it gives them an opportunity to support you in the ways you truly need to make it all work.

9). What is your biggest challenge, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?

Currently it’s committing to more sleep. It really makes a huge difference and it’s just a matter of my breaking a few habits I am holding on to.

10). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?

Taking care of my business, helping it grow to the next level.

Making sure my kids have a fun summer off their screens as much as possible.

Getting comfortable with not knowing exactly what my next steps are beyond GrooveRyde.

11). What does approaching a breakthrough feel like?

Collapsing

Falling down

Breaking down

Letting go, standing up, and stepping into your truth.  

Thank you Anjua for sharing your truth and wisdom.  You can her on Instagram:  @the_electriclife.

Woman of the Week: Joy

Please join me in celebrating my friend Joy this week.  Her post is a little late this week due to the fact that she is running for public office and has been busy knocking on doors and doing interviews.  I met Joy eight years ago and this woman is a powerhouse who has worked in several different areas over the years, recently working helping seniors with their healthcare options and doing substitute teaching as well.  Her nickname is Mama Joy and she is one of the most awesome people to come into my life in recent years.  I know that she will do her best for her constituents when she wins her race for election.  All the Diva love to you Joy!

1). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

Do what you think you cannot do - Eleanor Roosevelt

2). What is an unusual habit or an absurd thing that you love?

Leaving my Taffy cookies out to get stale before I eat them. (Hey they get soft I love it)

3). What is the best purchase that you have made in recent memory?

A white “pleather” crop jacket for $20. Original price $90

4). If you could have a giant billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

I’d want it posted right off the Narrows heading into the 26th District and I would want it to say - VOTE JOY STANFORD FOR WASHINTON

5). When you feel unsure or overwhelmed what do you do?

Cry and go into my myself and meditate

6). What is your biggest problem, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?

Time, I don’t have enough time in the day

7). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

Failure to me means success - because it means I am continuing to try and re-try - When I stop trying that would be the ultimate failure

8). What is the most memorable thing you have received in recent memory?

Text message from my granddaughter telling me she was proud to hear I was running for office

9). Who inspires you to be your best self?

Any and all women who are making a difference to make the lives of other women better

Glennon Doyle

Brene Brown

Nina Turner

10). What would you tell your 21 year old self?

Eat healthy and exercise

11). What would you be doing right now if money wasn’t part of the equation?

Calling bingo for Seniors and traveling to Mexico

12). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?

Raising money for my campaign, doing well in my upcoming interviews, doorbelling the most doors I can

Bonus question:

What do you continually ask yourself?

Have I done the best I can? And if not, how can I improve.

Thank you Joy for taking time out from your busy campaign to share with us.

XO

Titanium

Woman of the Week: Bonnie

This weeks's Woman of the Week is Bonnie, who I met through my yoga classes.  She has been inspiring on so many levels.  We have also spent time talking after class and learning more about each other.  Here is her interview..  

1). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?
Embracing the phrase - It’s not you, it’s them.  I first thought this was absolving responsibility for interaction and wasn’t having it.  After really noticing people’s responses, it became clear that it’s a really good general guideline.  And even more, I realized that in many interactions, the people I’m interacting with are giving mixed signals about what they are communicating.  Sitting across from someone in conversation there are so many clues as to how this person believes what they say.  Many either don’t care to tell the truth, or they don’t really know what they are feeling, or aren’t listening to what they are saying.  In written media it’s harder but there are still clues.  I’ve started listening with my whole body and heart, and feel better about being confused.  It really is them!

2). What is an unusual habit or an absurd thing that you love?
I love absurdity in all forms.  Skipping down the street, creating a new walk for the Ministry of Funny Walks (Monty Python), shaking off all sense of decorum.  I like to be a kid.  Dammit, I can grab the balls of life and have fun.

3). What is the best purchase that you have made in recent memory?
OK, I’m struggling with this question.  I have bought all sorts of things that I love, but it is a shallow love and I’m not above having shallow love.  So then there are the experiences that I have to spend money to do.  Those tend to create more change and lasting impressions.  The latest is a 10 day silent meditation retreat that was profoundly hard and raised more questions than answers.  I found some deeper parts of myself and avenues to work on.  And love and humor.  And when I find love and humor, all is well in the world.

4). If you could have a giant billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?
Be Kind.  It’s so simple, yet if we spend more time being kind to our self and others, the ripple effect could make our world so much brighter.

5). When you feel unsure or overwhelmed what do you do?

I stop and say a prayer that my grandmother taught me:

Encircling arms of love, 

Beneath,

Around,

Above.

There’s also one thing that I’ve been doing as I go to sleep.  I repeat the word trust, and allow my body to sink into the bed.  It’s funny and maybe a bit sad how much I don’t trust the world to take care of me, and it’s a good thing to try in a safe environment.

6). What is your biggest problem, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?
Me!  It comes down to attitude.  Generally speaking on a moment to moment basis, we don’t have to worry about dying, so most of our stumbling blocks is our attitude about what we are facing.  If I check on my attitude, I can change my perspective and things are solvable.

7). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?
My favorite failure is a crystallized moment of time when I was 29 and thought my life was a complete waste.  Nothing I expected was happening, nothing I was working for felt achievable, I felt like a nothing.  Invisible and worthless.  A friend brought me to a psychic which I thought would be a lark and I would have sunshine blown up my backside.  Then the psychic told me that everything I was focused on was beside the point.  I was furious.  And then.  And then, gradually, I realized that she was right, and all the things I was grasping for were not in my control.  And beside the point.   And the world cracked open a bit and I started working on the things that I could do something about.  And because of a change of perspective, or a change in luck, or focusing on things I could change, things started going my way.

8). What is the most memorable thing you have received in recent memory?
Well, it isn’t the most fun thing to receive, but it is memorable.  I found out I had colorectal cancer.  I had to have surgery that changed the way my body processes food and waste.  I am “cured” yet I don’t function like I used to.  And it sucks.  So all the expectations that I had about my future came into question.  The amount of hubris I harbored and still harbor - it turns out it’s a pretty heavy load.  So I have to begin again, and make friends with my imperfect body and continue to try to find a happy balance between what is and what I expect.  And be grateful for what I have now.

9). Who inspires you to be your best self?
Yes it’s corny, but it’s my kid - an eye rolling teenager.  Besides trying like hell to raise a good human, I’m continually quietly challenged by the way she interprets life.  It’s so different than mine and if I’m listening, it challenges me to look at what I hold dear.  And some of the time, I’m totally busted on adopting social mores that conflict with what I value, so I have to fess up and reframe my parenting rules.  It’s humbling.

10). What would you tell your 21 year old self?
Cribbed from SNL, “I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me.”  It makes me laugh, but they are some wise words.

11). What would you be doing right now if money wasn’t part of the equation?
Exactly what I am doing.  I have every tool that I need to change my situation, and if I was super damn motivated, I could choose to do just about anything,  I’ve spent time thinking about what I think I’m missing - the dreadful YOLO (you only live once) meme.  I’m not motivated to change my circumstances.  I like what I’m doing now, where I live now, and my small scale and happy existence. I’m grateful.

12). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?
Politics

Climate Change

The Truth - the big ultimate Truth

I wrestle with those questions just about every moment, and am trying to reject the guilt and do what I feel I need to do.  It’s hard.  So I turn back to trying to enjoy every stinking’ moment and my tension starts to ease.  Getting my panties all wadded up isn’t going to solve anything.

Bonus question:

Who inspires a sense of adventure within you?
My husband who is a nutty entrepreneur.  He has no critic that says not to embark on something that is out of his wheelhouse.  We have always had crazy sky-is-the-limit conversations and we have done things like sell the house and go cruising on a sailboat.  Others might find it unsettling to reexamine everything during a dinnertime conversation, but I find it sparks a sense of openness and thankfulness to live in a time when we have ridiculous options at our fingertips at every moment.  And we can actively choose to wholeheartedly do the things we feel that we have to do everyday and every moment.  

Bonnie, thank you so much for sharing all of your thoughts and ideas!

XO

Titanium

Monday Muse: Laura Brown

Today we welcome Laura Brown from Of Spirit and Bone.  Laura offers intuitive tools for deeper living that include taro readings, intuitive dialog and energy work, a modern therapy option and manifesting sessions.  I found her on Instagram awhile ago and I love her posts, she does a daily taro interpretation and also does deeper dives on her blog.  You can find more about her at her website:  https://ofspiritandbone.com/ 

Thank you Laura for sharing your thoughts with us in your interview.

1). As an intuitive reader, tarosit and coach, what should people better understand about you?

Ha! That I am really not interested in being liked for being liked sake. In my job I have to touch on some difficult topics and deliver some hard truths. In the very early days of my career I was often caught like a deer in headlights when I would come to these moments of challenge, fearful that once I told someone something they didn’t want to hear they wouldn’t like me. But the truth is you can hate me now and love me later, which most find they do because today truth is a pretty valuable commodity.

2).  What’s one thing that you feel sparked a pivotal moment in your life?

I would say that being pregnant with each of my kids sparked pivotal moments in my life. I really was overtaken each time with that Empress, fertile energy that is very inherent during this time. I accomplished more and stretched (literally and spiritually) beyond comfort zones to evolve as a woman but also as a spiritual business owner.

3). Who inspires a sense of adventure within you?

My husband. This man has energy to spare and is always down for an adventure, lemme tell ya! He helps to pull me out of my overly cautious demeanor and try new things. He reminds me that while I am here I better make sure to explore and taste absolutely every inch that this life has to offer.

4). What is the best purchase you have made in recent memory?

Sky diving with my husband. It was something we always said we wanted to do together and the opportunity arrived, and we jumped on it. I am not sure I will ever do it again but for those brief moments of soaring through the air I touched on that essence of being absolutely limitless. I mean, if I can jump out of an airplane is there really anything else I can’t do in this life?

5). Where is your favorite place to be a guest?

The Magnolia Hotel in Downtown Denver. It’s our families favorite place to have a little staycation. We schedule an in-room massage, explore downtown and eat the best food so that when we come home it’s with lots of love, relaxation and appreciation for a pause to our hectic schedule.

6). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

The failure of my relationship to my son’s father was the greatest challenge and blessing I’ve encountered in my life. It’s what catapulted me out of smallness, got me to deepen my spiritual practice and ultimately led to me to where I am now which is married to the man of my dreams with a family, home and awesome business. I find that this “failure” like much of the others I’ve experienced in my life taught me something rather invaluable about who I am and what I am capable of. I have learned to look at failures as lessons of where I am meant to grow at this time and that has helped me to see beyond the veil of emotion and towards the bigger picture.

7). If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

TRY.

I think that this tiny word is such a powerful affirmation for life. It doesn’t matter if we fail. It doesn’t matter if we fall flat on our ass. It matters only that we dared to try.

8). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

In the last 6 years I have made meditation a daily practice for me. I resisted meditation BIG TIME. Even in my line of work as an Intuitive Reader & Coach I spent many years pish poshing the idea of meditation with the excuse that I just didn’t have the time. I found, however that making the time for this simple practice proved to be life changing. Not only am I much better in my work but I am much better at this whole life thing with meditation in my life!

9). What is your biggest problem, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?

Time management! Ha, I am sure this is something many understand all too well but as a work from home mama with 3 kids, a busy career, a home that needs tending, dogs that want their walks and a rich desire to live this beautiful life to the fullest I have to be very careful to balance. And balance is such an organic, living thing, is it not? It’s not static and its always evolving which is why every day its sometimes a challenge for me to simply find my balance in the waves.

10). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?

The state of this country, my desire to raise conscious children who feel connected to their potential and a desire to love all of the people in my life to the fullest extent of my ability.

11). When does bravery become foolhardy?

Oh, such a good question. I think there is such a delicately fine line between the two! I think for me, however, that bravery becomes foolhardy when I act from a place of ego and not the heart. When ego is prompting my choices I often find myself with egg on my face. But when my heart is leading the way? Well I’ve taken many crazy leaps into the unknown and the bravery paid off.  

Thank you Laura for your down to earth and honest answers!  And yest time and the management of it are foremost on the minds of most of the women I interview and just talk to in my day to day life.  If I could figure out how to fix that for the women I know it would be a HUGE win!

XO

Titanium

Woman of the Week: Tonya

Meet this weeks Woman of the Week Tonya!  I met Tonya several years ago when she owned her jewelry supply business Whole Lotta Whimsy.  She had the best products and the most wonderful customer service.  She is also a jewelry artist that creates beautiful pieces in her brand new home studio in her new home.  She recently made a climate switch from desert living to mountain living and I see her going to all sorts of jewelry workshops to hone her already impressive skills.

1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?
Yesterday is gone. Today is a gift. What will you do with this precious time. Live today like it’s your last!

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?
It’s become easier to say no to taking on time consuming tasks or jobs that involve stress, anxiety and anger. I don’t need to start another business, be in a position of leadership (boards, committees, etc), join peer groups, or be the team mom. I am just focusing on me and my work these days and it sure is peaceful and satisfying.

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?
It’s a cliche but it’s true....don’t sweat the small stuff. 
I did a lot of work in my 40’s figuring out my undesirable traits, admitting them, and making a plan to correct/change them. I’m a perfectionist driven by my successes and achievements. “More is more” used to be my motto. So for me, it was always about the small stuff because I’m about the details. It wasn’t good enough to do the bare minimum or even to do the average job. However in the end, if this is your last day on earth, you have to ask yourself, would you seriously waste time worrying or fretting about “that thing”. Pick your battles better in your work, your life, your relationships and your expectations of self. Lastly remember what Voltaire said “the perfect is the enemy of the good”.

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature)
The time, teaching, advice, listening and love that I have invested in my child. There is nothing more important in the world than the happiness of your child. I feel a responsibility to make sure that my son, who is now a man, is a productive, empathetic, responsible, loving and joyful part of the greater community of the planet. I also wanted to do whatever it took to teach him how to treat others with respect, kindness and love. 

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?
Behavior: moving! Integrating daily workouts and movement has made me more productive, happy and healthy.
New Belief: no one needs to know your opinion and you don’t have to help others all the time. Just listen, nod and agree if you disagree. Voicing your opinion only changes their opinion about you and never about the topic or their passionately held beliefs.
Habit: stop and smell the roses. Seriously, stop to look at the sky, the buildings, the vegetation, etc. Visit more places by yourself, more often, so you have the quiet and you see the details because you are introspective. 
And stop eating carbs...they are evil!

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours?
There are very few things that I consider a failure. For me they are learning experiences and adventures that make me more successful the next time. If I had to pick one, I would have to say my first retail store because it was not as profitable as I wanted it to be. There are so many things that are part of having a profitable business but when you sign that lease, you have to do whatever it takes to make that location, size of space and business idea a success. That might mean extreme personal sacrifices of blood, sweat and tears but during that experience you will learn a ton. It’s that effort, drive and hard work that makes any experience a successful one. I loved my store and my customers and I learned so much from that experience that helped me make a more successful business with another store, a wholesale company, a marketing consulting company, and a coaching company. Each one lending New failure experiences to the perfect mix of ingredients. My newest entrepreneurial adventure is much more laid back. I’m launching a jewelry and design company. I’ve always been a designer/maker. I’m just manifesting it in a new way!

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?
I would have to say that they are experiences at museums. I recently visited Washington DC and spent many days at the museums. They were actually free but so enriching. Not enough Americans take advantage of these treasures. I try to add a day to visit museums in every city I visit!
I also love buying books and researching stories that give me historical info to help my work grow and evolve. 

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?
Step back, take some 4/7/8 breathing (Dr Weil), and remind myself that it’s just a speed bump. Slow down, reflect, understand it’s not a big deal in the scheme of life, and make a new plan. I also remind myself upon waking and throughout the day that this day is a blessing and gift. It is not promised. How do I want that day to exemplify what I want to Do, Be, Have, and Become? Am I in alignment?

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life?
Greg Levoy: Callings
Jack Canfield: The Success Principles
Seth Gooding: Linchpin (I think all high school age people should have to read this book)
Malcolm Gladwell: The Tipping Point


10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?
Take better care of you girl friendships. Keep in touch and follow through.
Follow through with your communications in all areas of life.
Keep family first, always. 
Wake up and give thanks for life. 
Say no more than you say yes. You need to take care of yourself first. 

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase mean to you?
I think “love of my life” can be cliche but you certainly can attract that romantic energy by knowing what you want. Most people don’t know what they want and wanting “love” is too vague. Knowing who you desire (just like knowing your target market) can lead to finding “the one”.
You can also have the love of your life through birth. My child truly is the love of my life. We are forever connected.
I do believe you can meet the love of your romantic life, and you know when you do. However it’s not enough. I believe we are not the same people in our 20’s as our 30’s etc. So we have to continue to work on ourselves, our relationships and our communication as we grow. I have been blessed with a husband who is not only my true love but my best friend too! Our love continues to grow and deepen because we put our relationship first and we work on ourselves individually and as a couple. 

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you)
I have sciatic nerve issues so I will be dedicating more time to stretching and strength training. As I’ve gotten more movement oriented I’ve also gotten stiffer which surprised me! Ah the joys of aging. Physical health is just as important as our mental health. Thanks Sherry for the stretching exercises. I can’t wait to integrate them into my daily habit. 
This week I am hitting my “fifth level”. I can only imagine what I will have learned and achieved at the “sixth level”.

Thank you for sharing Tonya!

XO

Titanium

 

Woman of the Week: Mai

Meet this weeks WOW, Mai.  I met her seven years ago through a friend and she came over for a visit.  We have stayed in touch all these years through the magic of Facebook.  This woman is the one who gave me the nickname "Titanium" and it has stuck with me all these years and in fact has even more meaning now then when she first told me about it.  She runs her own counseling business, is a talented artist and is raising three amazing kids with her husband.  

Thank you Mai for sharing with us!

1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Practice Acceptance.  I call the Serenity Prayer the most unused over spoken prayer in this world.  So many people say it.  So few practice it.  If more people used it and understood it then I believe there would be less anger in this world.  Learning to accept everything we can’t control and working on those things we can control take work and daily practice.  Eventually, it gives you peace of mind.  I’m sure this is what I would choose because I am in the depths of this practice.  Maybe in 10 years my answer would be different. 

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?

This may sound awful but personal requests for help (outside of my professional business).  I have always been a person who gives and wants to ‘fix’ everyone’s problems.  I would take on everyone’s problems and become so overwhelmed.  It took me a long time to be honest with myself as far as what I am able to give and what winds up depleting me or taking me away from my family.  I realized, late in life, I have to be happy, healthy and terrific in order to help other people.

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?

Do what you love not what is going to make you the most money…..unless money is what you love and then that’s you’re path and I’m probably not going to be able to talk you out of it.  Then I would say take your time.  These timelines we put on ourselves are ridiculous.  For example, “I have to have a million dollars before I’m 40!”  Says who?  I’ve seen young people stress out about graduating on time in college and it never made any sense to me.  Take your time and get the most out of it!  College is incredible and the knowledge you can obtain, not only in your field but others as well, is amazing!

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature)

Leaving a high paying job 3 years ago to balance out my life was the best investment I made.  I am challenged with meeting my bills but it doesn’t stress me out as much as working for a company demanding so much of my time and energy.  My kids are better for it.  My husband is better for it.  My disposition is incredibly improved.  Due to my change the people in my life were able to change as well.  I feel I should have left a long time ago but I’m a middle of road soul so my learning abilities aren’t quick.

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?

Acceptance.  I grew up in a Buddhist/Christian home but was told to search for my own beliefs.  I was told stories about each of the faiths.  I was allowed to attend any events of faith I wished.  I felt the most in tune with Buddhism and practice many of its teachings.  Acceptance is probably one of the most challenging things for people in our society.  Although it’s not a new belief or behavior it’s one I’m more focused on now in my life.  Being able to accept what we can control and what we can’t and not allowing bad or negative feelings to dictate our decisions is a big key to happiness; yet in our society it is not practiced well at all.  It takes awareness and mindfulness which I feel many people are out of touch with in this society.  I have hope and emit positive vibes towards it though.  I am hoping the newer generations (i.e. Z plus) have a better hold of the concept.  I’ve seen very hopeful signs with the new generations.

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours?

I don’t know if this is good or bad but I have so many failures in life to learn from that it’s difficult to choose.  I think the ones I think most about are my relationship failures and I mean everything from friends to family to acquaintances.  In my youth I just wanted so much acceptance and only as an adult can I look back and realize the mistakes I made and some of it is just downright embarrassing.  One of the strongest realizations I made in my 30s.  I saw how my gender tore each other down and realized I had participated in that for most of my life.  I decided I wasn’t going to tear down women any more but lift them up and I have been practicing that for almost 20 years.  I teach it to younger women and children in hopes we, as women, become more united and help support each other in all our endeavors. 

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?

Learned Optimism by Martin E.P. Seligman, also known as the father of Positive Psychology, changed my life.  Being able to focus on your strengths rather than your deficits to overcome difficulties in life is amazing.  I bought this more than 6 months ago but I purchased it at a time when I was going through a very difficult divorce and I was kind of lost.  It helped me love myself again and find answers to life.

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?

There’s what I should do and there’s what I do do….unfortunately. Sometimes I just zone out and avoid the work for a while but then I cause myself undue stress.  If I make myself meditate, do some square breathing and return to my work it helps immensely.  I also have to think positive thoughts and tell myself I can do this. 

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and It’s All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep The Little Things From Taking Over Your Life by Richard Carlson

Learned Optimism by Martin E.P. Seligman

The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama

10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?

I don’t know if I completely understand this question.  Earlier in my life? Her life?  In my life, even though I probably thought I knew everything, I wasn’t capable of dispensing solid, good advice.  If I could go back in time I would advise all women (even myself) the following things – 1. Be good and support your gender at all times

2. Don’t EVER be ashamed of your love and emotions.  They ARE strengths NOT weaknesses.

3. Believe in yourself and stand strong.

4. The best, most fulfilling but also most challenging (at times) relationship you can have is with other women.  (It’s the saddest thing in the world when I hear women brag about not having women friends).

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?

So many things.  The love of my life could be my children.  It could be my husband.  It could be a moment in time.  Right now, having found someone who is so in tune with me and living a more balanced life it’s all of the above.  To me, I’ve always been surrounded by love but I was taught to be suspicious and negative towards it so only in my adulthood can I appreciate that I have always been a loving person, simply misguided at times.  I think the MOST important love of your life should be yourself….. not in a narcissistic way but in an ‘awareness’ type of way. 

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you)

I have a real aversion to financial anything and I know it’s a challenge for me.  I think if I learned to have more respect and acceptance to its importance it would improve my life. 

Thank you Mai for your insightful and enlightening responses.  So much truth there and some of what you said is what prompted me to start this site and create this series.  As women we need to uplift and support each other and provide space to be seen and heard.

XO

Titanium

Woman of the Week: Britt

This weeks Woman of the Week is my bonus daughter, Britt.  She and my daughter were friends in high school and their daughters are just days apart in age.  She has moved with her family to Montana so we don't get to see them much in person, but there is always a Facebook update.  She's raising three kids and works as a Beach Body instructor, inspiring others in the health and fitness goals.

1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

“You are you and that is your superpower.” I think it can be easy to get caught up in the comparison game, especially now with social media. It’s so important to remember that we each have our own gifts and talents and way of being in the world that is unique to us... that should be celebrated!

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?

Over the last five years I’ve learned that when I say “yes” to everything, I end up saying “no” to the things that matter most. I’m now protective of my time and energy, especially in this season of life as a mom to young kids... these years re precious! I’ve learned it’s ok to say ‘no’ and be intentional with my commitments and time.

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?

Oh man... the transitioning from college life to the “real world” can be such an exciting time but it can also be overwhelming. My advice would be to embrace the change and everything this next chapter has to teach you. College doesn’t prepare you to take on the real world... there is a learning curve but don’t be discouraged. There is so much to learn from each new experience, enjoy learning and never stop learning.  “The day you stop learning is the day you stop living”

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature)

The best investment I’ve made so far is in my health... not only through exercise but also making sure I get enough sleep, getting educated on vitamins and nutrients, eating (mostly) clean & making sure to drink enough water. I see such a huge shift in my outlook on life when I take care of myself and my body.

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?

I have learned in the last 5 years, that I can’t pour from an empty cup. I can easily find myself doing a million things, running around and taking care of everyone else but me... but I have learned that when I take care of myself last, everybody suffers. I can’t show up to life as my best self when I neglect myself, so I’ve learned to make self-care a habit. 

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours? 

My favorite failures so far have been in motherhood. Whether it’s messing up a Pinterest craft or a recipe or forgetting about ‘show & tell’ day until we have to leave in 5 minutes... I believe there is power in showing our kids that it’s ok not to be perfect and that mistakes happen, it’s how we react to our failures that matter.

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?

My lavender, stress away and thieves essential oils... #gamechangers

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?

When I’m feeling overwhelmed or unfocused I pray. I also will take a step back and reflect on what is causing the disruption & how to move past it.

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life? 

•You are a Badass

•Present over Perfect

•Girl, Wash Your Face

10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?

Just how fast life flies by, so don’t overthink the small stuff. Always find time for the things that make you come alive

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?

Look, falling in love is easy... it’s staying in love is where it gets tricky. I believe that love is a choice. It’s a decision. It’s deliberate. You can choose to work and grow together as a couple and have that “love of your life” or you can choose to experience many loves in your life.

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you)

I could really go for a glass of wine and a million dollars right about now... or if someone would like to come do my laundry, that’d be great too! 

Thanks Bwitt!!

XO

Titanium

Woman of the Week: Kelly

This week we celebrate Kelly.  Another long time friend from my high school days.  She has like me been on a journey to learn more about the power of food for good health and healing.  She has a son with MS and has learned that pharmaceuticals that can be more poison than healing with chronic illness.  Learn more about her story below.

1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?  

I would love for a giant billboard to read, “Food DOES make a difference!  Eat More Plants!”

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?

In recent years, I’ve become much better at saying no to foods that don’t promote health.  I can easily walk by junk food without feeling the need to eat it.

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?

Take time to be in the moment and enjoy your youth.  While I believe a career is important, find a healthy balance between your work life and your personal life. Trust me, in hindsight; you will be thankful!

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature)

My best and most worthwhile investment has definitely been in my children and family.  Loving and nurturing them is what makes me the happiest.

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?

As you have probably figured out by now, a healthy diet is extremely important to me.  Nine years ago, at the age of 20, our son Austin was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis.  His presenting symptom was something called Optic Neuritis, which has left him legally blind. After watching him struggle with several prescribed, and poisonous in my opinion, pharmaceuticals, I began to research how important a healthy diet is for MS sufferers.  Seven years ago, our entire family went vegan to support him and it has made a huge difference for all of us!  It truly has been an incredible, positive journey, and we are so grateful.

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours? My favorite failure was when I didn’t get the initial job that I interviewed for at the company that I currently work for, Vitamix.  I knew that I wanted to work for this company, and remained steadfast in my pursuit. Later, a much better opportunity presented itself, and I secured the position. I’m so thankful that I didn’t get that initial job! 

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?

The Instant Pot is the first item that comes to mind when I think of a positive purchase that costs less than $100.  If you don’t have one, make the investment.  You won’t be disappointed.

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?

I have learned over the years that when I begin to feel overwhelmed and unfocused, I need to decline extracurricular activities and commitments and allow myself to have downtime.  It’s usually a sign that I’m overcommitted.

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influenced your life?

The book that has most influenced my life is the Holy Bible.  I believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and thank him daily for the abundance of blessings in my life. 

10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?

The one piece of advice that I would give a young woman today would be to remain true to yourself and your beliefs.

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?

I believe that you can have more than one true love in a lifetime.  What makes the difference, in my opinion, is dedication to the person that you love. That’s what defines true love to me.

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you)

I want to see a complete cure for MS!  I believe it’s out there with all of my heart. 

Thank you Kelly for sharing a portion of your life with us.  Food is indeed powerful medicine!

XO

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Monday Muse: Eleanor Macnair

This month we welcome Eleanor Macnair to the Monday Muse interview series.  She is an artist who uses PlayDoh to recreate photographs.  Yes the PlayDoh of your youth used to create photographs, which she photographs and then tears apart to start all over again.  I can't remember how I found her, but I was drawn to her use of the medium and her skill at recreating the works of art.  When I contacted her about potentially being a part of this interview series, she kindly agreed to participate.  She has her work in galleries all over the world and lives in England.  I hope you enjoy reading her interview and I hope to convince her to be a guest on the podcast to dive a little deeper.   

1). How did your journey to re-create photos with Playdoh start and what was your inspiration?

Strangely it all started at a photographic pub quiz in the summer of 2013. The quiz was run by artists MacDonaldStrand – and one of the rounds was to remake a photograph in Play-Doh. So I really borrowed their idea, but they don’t seem to mind! There followed a chain of events which lead to me experimenting by posting a few images on tumblr which quickly proved popular. It’s never been an intentional art project but more of an experiment – although I never thought it would go this far. One book and nearly 6 solo exhibitions later I’m still not sure where it will end.

2). How many containers of Playdoh do you go through in a year?

After I have shot the models I take them apart and reuse the play-doh. The practical reason for this is play-doh does not last for long out of the jar – I usually have about 24 hours maximum to work on a model before the edges crack and dry and they start to fall apart. I like the idea of the models being ephemeral and disposable – a sideways comment on our disposable, throwaway age. The result of re-using the play-doh means that I don’t get through too many pots – apart from white play-doh as the colours can bleed into each other and so the white needs to be refreshed every so often. I think in all I have about 300 pots. Some of them I have been reusing since the start of the project.

3). When you feel your creativity is lacking or unfocused, what do you do?

Each model takes around 7 hours and then the time to shoot afterwards, so it’s quite a feat of concentration. I usually find the most difficult thing is to decide which image to do. I always allocate the time to the project and then just make myself sit down and do it – so there is personal discipline involved. I like to listen to podcasts as I model as it helps to keep my mind focused.

4). How has failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

I’m never fully happy with the finished images but I always (or nearly always!) post the models on my Instagram and my blog anyway. I think it’s important to show where you go wrong as well as the times when you nail it. People get scared to experiment and feel that they can only project a perfect image online – I think it’s more interesting to show both sides.

5). If you could have a billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Perhaps ‘Do as you would be done by’. My parents were never religious but I remember my mum told me at a young age that she kind of believed in this saying, and it’s stuck with me.

6). What is your biggest problem, stumbling block or issue in your daily life?

Not enough hours in the day and not enough hours for sleep.

7). Who inspires you to be your best self?

Everyone! Friends, people I read about in books, see on the street. I think being open to many different ways of living and being and realizing that none is necessarily right or wrong – just finding what works for you.

8). What would you be doing right now if money wasn’t part of the equation?

I would probably move to the countryside, travel more and spend all day making play-doh models! My income is currently from freelance work combined with play-doh print sales – so I’d like to give up the other freelance work. But then again, I think that grafting is good for you. I suppose I try not to fantasize about having lots of money because it would make me unhappy with what I’m lucky enough to already have.

9). What is an unusual habit or an absurd thing that you love?

I’ve done ballet from a very young age and I’m not sure if it’s absurd or not but it’s something that if I no longer do it I feel like a part of me is missing. I love the physicality of it.

10). What three things are foremost in your mind right now?

I’m due to have a baby in June so that is pretty forefront in my mind right now… and international politics aside I’m wondering what play-doh model to make next and what to make for dinner.. So nothing at all profound!  

Thank you Eleanor for sharing a glimpse into your process.  As for your answer to question #10, I can assure that having a baby is a most profound experience, I wish you all the best.

XO

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Thoughts on the Day 4/26/18

Every next level of your life will demand a different version of you...

When we level up, we bring all that we have been to help create that new version of ourselves.  The reality is that we all change with time, circumstances, good things, the hard and while those changes may be so small as to seem imperceptible, those subtle shifts alter who you were before you walked through what was on your path.  

When I look back at my medical mystery tour (soon to be four years in June), my journey started with conventional medicine.  What I learned the hard way was something I knew before on a different level, but this time conventional medicine and my doctor failed me.  While his actions helped to save my life in the beginning, his refusal to listen to my feedback about the side effects I was having from the med he prescribed and his insistence that I stay on the med put me in further jeopardy.  His refusal to take me seriously about the side effects, his admittance that he didn't realize that some of what I was telling him was a side effect (I offered to send him links for his review) and the fact that he didn't truly listen to me and instead chose to keep me on a med I was having a severe allergic reaction to started me on a downward spiral.  Not to mention that I learned about scores of class action law suits surrounding the drug (Xarelto) and the fact that there isn't an antidote for it.  Yes a different doctor told me about that.  I was lucky I didn't end up dead.

Instead what I did get gifted with as a result of his negligence was 2+ years of pain, fear, more conventional medicine and care that further destroyed my health and at one point I seriously was contemplating suicide.  Luckily for me a friend pointed out that prednisone can totally fuck with your head and cause those kinds of thoughts and the fact that my histamine levels were so high and the hives so bad for so long, I had lost all hope of ever getting better.  I had just spent 8 months getting $4000.00 injections each month, to no avail.  

What kept me going was the determination and resolute belief that there had to be a better way than just covering up the symptoms with one more nasty ass med that was worse than the one before it.  I knew that in order to heal I had to find the visionary healthcare professional that would look for the root cause resolution and use the healing power of food, supplements and low impact meds to help me heal.  There were many who didn't believe that I knew my own body, doctors who told me they knew better than I did what was right for my own body.  Family and friends who didn't understand just how bad it really was and I continued to retreat in an effort to just survive another day on little sleep and the constant wonder of just how bad the day was going be.

So I called on something I wrote to myself several years ago to remind myself that I did in fact truly know my own body, my own strength and what was right for me...  "I'm gathering everyday the strength, power, endurance and wisdom to slay the naysayers."  It kept me moving toward what I knew in my gut, my poor destroyed gut, that I had to be determined and dauntless to get past that histamine hell and start to heal.  It took a little over two years but I did finally find the right care, the right med, the right foods, the right supplements and I have been improving every day ever since.  There have been a few small setbacks but as of right now it is looking like I will be able to start taking lower doses of my current med and eventually be able to get off the med completely. 

This was a path of discovery that I never would have willingly signed on for, something I wouldn't have wished on my worst enemy, but something evidently the Universe deemed necessary for me to experience.  This medical mystery tour honed my desire to overcome and rise to the task of boldly taking charge of my own health and being the catalyst for my own healing.  My functional medical specialist told me at my last visit that she always loves to see me because I am proof to her that functional medicine does in fact work.  I share my story because I hope it might help someone else suffering with auto immune issues, allergy issues and perhaps lack of quality care find the help that can change their life like is has mine.  Perhaps even if you are not suffering from a chronic health condition, there might be something in my story that sparks something in your to rise to whatever task is before you and get past what may be holding you back.  That my story may be a catalyst for change in your life on any level that you seek.  

The more we share our stories, the more we learn about one another, the more wisdom is shared and the better chance for connection.  It is what spurred me to create my website and share not only my stories but stories of others, because we all deserve to be seen, heard, supported and celebrated.

XO

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Woman of the Week: Sheila

This week we celebrate Sheila, someone I have known for 40 years.  A mom to three girls, a homeschooler, a volunteer and a grandmother.  Sheila, thank you for sharing your wisdom with all of us.   

1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?  Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates His great love for us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” I find this scripture to be astounding & a wonderful illustration of love.

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?   I'm a helper by nature & get satisfaction by coming alongside others, rather than being the leader. However, over the years my "helping" or volunteering began created stress instead. When my husband was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer in spring of 2016 I was forced to limit my helping to just my husband and immediate family. Now that he's cancer free I understand not to over-book myself in volunteering. 

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?  I'd probably tell them something similar to what I told my own daughters in their college years: Focus on your strengths, work on your weaknesses & always be eager to learn something new. Your outlook on life will influence your decisions & your future, so stay focused on the good in people & situations.

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature) Homeschooling my three daughters has by far been the most worthwhile thing I’ve ever done. Yes, there was also struggle, doubts & times to re-evaluate my commitment, but it was such an adventure (kind of a rebellious adventure) that kept us close as a family throughout their childhoods. Despite (or because of?) my “patchwork” approach to homeschooling, two are successful college grads & my youngest has two years left to complete at the U of O. All three are strong, confident young women who still like to hang out with their momma.

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?  Life in general is so much easier when I am thankful. Learning to be intentional in being thankful, especially in hard circumstances, has brought me closer to family & to the Lord. I've always been a very positive & thankful person, but after reading the book, One Thousand Gifts, I have tried to find something to be thankful (grateful) for each day. Some days this was quite hard, especially while my husband was going through chemo & his outlook was uncertain, but just the process of saying thank-you to God for small things was so helpful.

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours?

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?  A few years ago, I started planting flowers & small perennials in pots of different sized on my patio, which I can see them from my kitchen & family room windows. I have found that the process of planning, planting & tending to these flowers really, really makes me happy. Who knew? Just looking outside as I wash dishes from spring to fall makes me smile and uplifts my mood. My planted pots are a hit with the squirrels & hummingbirds, too. 

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?  When I'm overwhelmed with life I usually unplug from social media, clear off my schedule, pray about the situation & talk it over with my husband over a glass of wine, depending on the situation. If weather permits, going on a short hike or spend time outdoors helps to clear my mind & allows me to refocus.

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life?  As a follower of Jesus, the Bible has been the greatest influence on my life. I am an avid reader & book lover.  My favorite books are usually children's or middle-grade books, which is probably because I read most every book my girls did while homeschooling. Powell's used bookstore in Portland is like a candy store to me! I love to buy books for my grandsons in California, my new granddaughter in Seattle & my nieces & nephews. I've even managed to recommend a couple grown-up books to my 25 year old, which she actually liked.

10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life? Don't care so much about what others think of you or at least don't let it stop you from doing what you want to do in life. As long as you are kind & generous, you don't need to be concerned about fitting into someone else's pigeon hole or expectations. (I wish I had heard this as a teenager.) 

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you? I think people can have many "loves" throughout their lives. Sometimes we don't actually realize how important (or less important) those loves are/were until we are older & wiser. The love of my life, however, is definitely Bill, my husband of 33 years. It hasn't always been an easy road, but at this point we can look back on our journey be grateful for each other & solid in our commitment for the future.

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you) My biggest concern in my life right now is dealing with my aging parents & their medical needs. My dear Dad has Parkinson's and dementia and my Mom is having a hard time realizing that she IS actually elderly. We recently moved my Dad into a care facility & my Mom into an independent retirement home, where neither are quite happy. I don't think there's really anything that will help. It's just a hard time for them & for my sister & I as we do what we can to make these last years as comfortable as possible.  

Thank you again Sheila!

XO

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Thoughts on the Day 4/12/18

"Go at it boldly, and you'll find unexpected forces closing round you and coming to your aid."   ~Basil King

As I am working on all the things I have swirling in my head that I want to create and share there are times I wonder just what the hell I think I am doing.  I'm smart enough to know that I don't know everything, curious enough to want to keep learning more and feel my purpose telling me to keep going you're on to something here.  I'm no expert, well I am expert enough to realize that I am no expert, but I certainly have lived some life and learned some shit and realize there is so much more to learn.  

I think life is fluid, like the ocean, a river or a stream.  When the water runs into an obstacle, it finds a way to flow around, between or over whatever lies in its path.  I aspire to be more like the ocean I so love and stay fluid, learning all I can to go around, between or over whatever keeps me from my path and purpose.  

I have a curiosity about life, about people, about how they arrive where they are when I meet them or hear their story.  There is so much wisdom in a life that I love to hear.  Many don't realize just how much wisdom they possess, thinking that everyone must know what they know, have the experiences that are similar.  What I have learned is that everyone has their own unique journey and while many may have had similar experiences they are still unique to the person who has lived the life.  I think there are too many people who don't realize how powerful their stories are, how much connection and understanding can come from sharing those stories of joy, pain, sorrow, excitement, love, loss, gain and vulnerability.  Not everyone is ready to share with others, not ready to ride the vulnerability track, some because they just haven't come to the space where they can, others because no one has bothered to ask them and really hear them...

I want to create a space for the hearing, the seeing, the supporting, the sharing, the celebrating and the uplifting.  It's slowly coming together and it's more expansive and amazing than I ever imagined in my head.  Read the Woman of the Week series and the first Monday Muse from this last Monday.  These are just the tips of the iceberg of the depth of wisdom that lives out there waiting to be brought into the light.

Be Bold... I'm working on it.

XO

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Woman of the Week: Cynthia

Please join me in celebrating Cynthia or as I call her Cyn this week for our WOW.  We met in 1996 I believe when we both worked for a small start up airline in Seattle.  We have stayed in touch all of these years.  She was the first person to tell me not to try to "drive it" and the first time she said that I didn't understand at all.  Well I was still a lot clueless in my 30's.  She's been a touchstone and a guide and confidante for all of these years.  And Cyn, I left the last part you included because I felt it was as important as all the rest of the wisdom that you shared.  Love you large!

1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Do it – but check and alter your attitude if need be. 

Always do anything with love and by choice. 

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?

I say “no” more to myself actually.  “No Cyn, you don’t want to skip Tai Chi this morning.  No Cyn, you need to get to your massage, the other things can wait for 90 minutes.”  So I’ve been saying “yes” to self care by saying “no” to that little voice that tries to get me to focus on things that truly can wait.

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?

Focus on what you want in 5 years from now and keep that focus yet stay open to twists and turns you might find even more interesting as you go.  Nothing is cast in stone unless you say it is.

Keep a budget and plan for some fun within it. 

Network, network, network. 

Exercise and eat right.

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature)

The time I’ve spent with my daughter, grandchildren and friends and family.  The time I’ve spent studying coaching.

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?

I don’t have to do it all.  Ask for help.  Be ready for it to come from anywhere, even if you ask one person and they won’t or cannot, keep looking for support.

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours?

All failures have taught me oodles. Everything is connected.  Fail fast and quick, learn and adapt from it.  Stay curious, even when you think you can’t.  My favorite failure is more about failing and staying ‘stuck’ and not moving up and onward.  It’s okay to sit down by the side of the road and throw a pity party and blame everyone, but the less time you spend there the better time you will have giving yourself your power back to move it on and kick it up a notch.  Lean in to it – learn from it.

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?  

Seriously, Alexa – Echo Dot.  She keeps track of my grocery lists, to do lists, appointment reminders better than even my iPhone does – because I can holler at her and review later, end of day, start of day.  That $30 was a good choice.  

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do? 

I breathe.  I sit in as much silence as I can find.  I get up and move about and change my physical view of things, do the dishes, play with the dog.  I take a break – whatever that looks like.  Then I come back, reprioritize using a list or a self-talk and get back on it or reschedule.

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life? 

What You Think of Me is None of My Business – and The Power of TED – Einstein’s Dreams – and many many more.  The Bible has been a great guide, especially Roman’s, the Corinthians and a few others.  There’s an old Sufi book I loved, but can’t find it right now!

10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?

Love your body, love your mind, be kind, manage your anger (it’s just your fear in disguise) and absolutely be your best self, every day. 

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?  

I have a hundred loves of my life if not more.  Life is one long continuous stream of consciousness and as I’ve moved through it, I’m not afraid to have as many loves of my life (that life in that time) as is warranted.  Is there “one” love of my life?  So many ways to show and be and receive love – grandchildren, children, partners, co-workers – I have oodles of loves of my life.  As to the spouse/mate kind – I’ve seen it for others but not for myself yet – every man I’ve ever loved, during the time I’ve loved him – is/was the love of my life.   I think, throughout it all, I am the greatest love of my own life.

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you) 

Aged, ailing parents and the system is so far beyond broken.  If someone could project manage and gain the right staff and people and surroundings for our elderly – that would solve about 100% of my current issues.  
 

It’s 722 am and I can’t think of anything else – Thanks for asking Digi-goddess – not sure it will help or do anyone but me any good to have gone through your questions – but it was insightful and made me think.  Thank you sweetie – hope you are feeling better soon.  More littlest lovey pics with you – and beach reports when able – LOVE to see you and hear you!!

Please join me next week for a brand new feature, Monday Muse.  I will be reaching out to women who inspire me that I have met through various points in time in my life and from all walks of life.  I hope to help compliment the Woman of the Week series and keep introducing amazing women from all over the world.

XO

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Titanium Tidbit Tuesday

Using 2 yoga blocks we can work to open both the shoulders and the front of the body.  Good for relieving pain from too much computer work, a great way to relax before bed and open space for the shoulders and the breath to move.