Monday Muse: Kathryn Budig

This week Kathryn Budig is our featured Monday Muse. She is a yoga teacher, author, podcaster and foodie!

1). You have a substantial yoga career, how has your teaching style changed/morphed over the years?

It’s always in flux. I started out obsessed with asana, particularly arm balances, because I came from a regimented ashtanga background. And then I fell in love with backbends and the challenging surrender they evoked. I eventually started teaching more concepts — my aim true philosophy — and now blend my love of storytelling, food, personal philosophies and asana into my teaching.

2).  In your personal practice what if anything has resulted in you having an “ah-ha” moment that you still carry with you onto the mat?

That there is always room to change. It’s easy to get stuck and feel like there’s only one way to success or happiness, and I’ve learned that simply isn’t true. Even though change and stepping outside of the norm can be exhausting and terrifying—it’s worth it.

3). Who inspires you to be your best self?

My wife always challenges me to be better. Seane Corn pushes me to be the best teacher possible, and I find constant inspiration and joy in my dog, Ashi.

4). What is the best purchase you have made in recent memory?

A trip to Santorini. All of my best purchases have been traveling to places because it gives me amazing memories.

5). When you feel your creativity is stalled what do you do?

I try to turn off my phone. I’ve noticed my creativity is dulled by too much scrolling and absent-minded time on my phone/computer. I start seeing more detail and get small patches of inspiration when I do this.

6). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

I’ve come to trust that if something doesn’t happen for me, it wasn’t mine to start with. It’s a terrible tonic to swallow, but it’s absolute truth. I always do my best, and know that if I keep true to the intention behind my projects as opposed to the specific results, I’ll always find the right home and audience for my creations.

7). If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Focus On What’s Working — because it’s too easy to waste time fixating on the things that hold us back.

8). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

Allowing myself to exist in a land without answers. I always needed to know things were going to be okay and on schedule, and letting go of that grip has allowed me to find solutions and alternate paths when things don’t pan out the way I want.

9). What is your biggest problem, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?

Allowing myself to exist in a land without answers. Yup, the exact same thing that I’ve most benefited from. Ain’t that always the case?

10). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?

Getting married, the future of our podcast, Free Cookies, and what I’m making for dinner.

11). When does your curiosity create difficulty?

My curiosity only gets me in trouble when it leads to comparison.

Kathryn, thank you so much for your honesty. I love your billboard message, I am going to have to write that one down. Since this interview happened, Kathryn did get married and Seane Corn officiated the ceremony. Congratulations Kathryn and Kate!! Stay tuned, we are working on getting a time together to record a podcast interview soon!

Ciao

Titanium

Monday Muse: Brittany Hoogenboom

Please join me in welcoming today's Monday Muse, Brittany.  I met B several years ago on Instagram in some yoga challenge.  So much has changed over the years since we met.  She has embarked on a whole new career path and 9 days ago we got to finally meet in person after talking about it for all this time.  Please join me in welcoming her to the blog today!

1). You have made a big change in your career life recently, what sparked the transformation for you?

The freedom of living my truth and knowing that I am supported not only by my inner being but those around me sparked the transformation. Living my truth has also brought financial freedom and financial wealth in a way that I never imagined. I am more excited about my life than ever before and the fact that I get to spend everyday doing what I do, connecting to source energy, guiding others to do the same, loving life, spreading love, dancing daily, being my own boss, this life is so magical.

2).  What mistake would you make again?

This question is like a paradox. There are no mistake that I would make again because all the mistakes made were divinely planned at the time they were made for growth in that moment. I am transcending my being to align with the highest vibration of myself and if it chooses to have me make a mistake again to learn something over in a new light I receive it by going with the flow.

3). Where do you feel most nurtured?

I feel the most nurtured in my own skin every moment I take a second to reconnect with my breath or dance. When I am smiling and beaming gratitude for all of life.

4). What is the best purchase you have made in recent memory?

The best purchase I made was Thought Cloud CBD and I fell so much in love with the Cannabis medicine in that form and for the company that I joined their affiliate team!

5). How do you build endurance?

I use affirmations and dance. Life endurance comes from connecting with yourself through gratitude and everytime I move my body to music I give thanks for the fact that my body is able to move in the way that it does and that I am living in this life doing what I am put here to do, to spread Divine Love.

6). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

Like one of my hero’s Anjua Maximo  (@the_electriclife)  said “We fail up.” Failure gives you opportunities to grow! There is no wrong failure! Choose to grow from that space by reaching for the light in a new direction.

7). If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

haaa I love this question it was say “I AM A MAGICAL MOTHA FUCKER” because when people would drive by to and see it they would be repeating that affirmation to themselves and fuck has passion in it, with that intention of course.

8). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

It would take me years to write all of that but one thing that has truly transformed my life is the understanding of how the law of attraction words in EVERY area of life. From money to getting your kids to listen! The Universal Law of Attractions is POWERFUL and I don’t think many people realize how powerful it truly is. I live my life like a vision board and I am grateful to be able to do so because I am attracting all that I want in my life in the name of Divine Love.

9). What is your biggest challenge, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?

My biggest challenge is continuing to align with my truth and keep my boundaries and create the life I want through my words and actions in my marriage because my husband doesn’t put as much conscious energy into his life so I keep reminding myself to listen to my heart, to listen to my intuition, to transmute and create from the law of attraction even if he doesn’t choose so. I AM mastering it and I continue to create all that I seek and want in my life and all that is seeking me at the highest vibrations. I trust in my higher self and occasionally I catch myself letting his worries pull me out of that vibration and I have to talk myself back into a alignment.

10). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?

On my mind right now is growing my business by expanding the 4 week coaching/mentorship session because this is the most exciting thing in my life right now and I am excited to have more and more people join me! I get to go visit one of my best friends, Christina (@Christina_Sutra) who I have met on instagram. I literally booked my ticket as I was answering these questions. Weaving my dreams into reality. I am excited to continue to weave my dreams into reality. I am excited to guide millions and millions of people to self love and connecting with their highest truth to live their truth, and I am excited to become a young millionaire while doing so.

11). When are you the most observant?

When I taking a deep breathe and in a space of gratitude

Brittany, thank you so much for sharing with us!!  Stay tuned Brittany will be on an upcoming podcast episode soon!!

XO

Titanium

Friday FIVE!

It's that time of the week again, Friday FIVE...  Here is what caught my attention this week.

1:  Reading:  A Thousand Days in Tuscany by Marlena de Blasi.  A memoir by de Blasi who is a chef and the second book about her life, the first one, A Thousands Days in Venice.  I am so enjoying her story of Tuscany, which is one of my favorite places on earth.

2:  Summer foods:  I am eating all the berries, peaches, cherries and watermelon I can get my hands on.  I’m busy freezing some of the berries for my smoothies this winter and I have to say that I am loving my cherry pitter big time.

3:  Dreaming of:  a cute little house that I can make my own and fill with great finds.  I am working on just staying open to that happening and not setting up any sort of expectation.  With housing prices the way they are, it will take some sort of miracle for me to afford anything close to where I live , but I am believing the magic will happen.

4:  Audiobook I am loving:  Come as you are: The Surprising New Science that will transform your sex life, by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D, there is some incredible information here that the anatomy geek in me loves and some interesting things that I am learning about how we have evolved and what as women we have been bombarded with to keep us from truly enjoying our sexuality.  If you are looking for something a little more less science and more summer entertainment try this one:  The Lost Vintage by Ann Mah

5:  Watching:  Jumanji, the newish one with Duane Johnson and Jack Black.  Suggested by my new friend and I laughed my ass off through most of it.  Jack Black does an amazingly funny job with his character, I loved it.  Light hearted, funny and enjoyable.

That is it for this week.  I hope that you are enjoying your summer, I have been beach walking almost every day, soaking up the sun and enjoying the doors and windows being open.

XO

Titanium

Woman of the Week: Joy

Please join me in celebrating my friend Joy this week.  Her post is a little late this week due to the fact that she is running for public office and has been busy knocking on doors and doing interviews.  I met Joy eight years ago and this woman is a powerhouse who has worked in several different areas over the years, recently working helping seniors with their healthcare options and doing substitute teaching as well.  Her nickname is Mama Joy and she is one of the most awesome people to come into my life in recent years.  I know that she will do her best for her constituents when she wins her race for election.  All the Diva love to you Joy!

1). In the last five years, what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

Do what you think you cannot do - Eleanor Roosevelt

2). What is an unusual habit or an absurd thing that you love?

Leaving my Taffy cookies out to get stale before I eat them. (Hey they get soft I love it)

3). What is the best purchase that you have made in recent memory?

A white “pleather” crop jacket for $20. Original price $90

4). If you could have a giant billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

I’d want it posted right off the Narrows heading into the 26th District and I would want it to say - VOTE JOY STANFORD FOR WASHINTON

5). When you feel unsure or overwhelmed what do you do?

Cry and go into my myself and meditate

6). What is your biggest problem, issue or stumbling block in your daily life?

Time, I don’t have enough time in the day

7). How has failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

Failure to me means success - because it means I am continuing to try and re-try - When I stop trying that would be the ultimate failure

8). What is the most memorable thing you have received in recent memory?

Text message from my granddaughter telling me she was proud to hear I was running for office

9). Who inspires you to be your best self?

Any and all women who are making a difference to make the lives of other women better

Glennon Doyle

Brene Brown

Nina Turner

10). What would you tell your 21 year old self?

Eat healthy and exercise

11). What would you be doing right now if money wasn’t part of the equation?

Calling bingo for Seniors and traveling to Mexico

12). What three things are foremost on your mind right now?

Raising money for my campaign, doing well in my upcoming interviews, doorbelling the most doors I can

Bonus question:

What do you continually ask yourself?

Have I done the best I can? And if not, how can I improve.

Thank you Joy for taking time out from your busy campaign to share with us.

XO

Titanium

Woman of the Week: Tonya

Meet this weeks Woman of the Week Tonya!  I met Tonya several years ago when she owned her jewelry supply business Whole Lotta Whimsy.  She had the best products and the most wonderful customer service.  She is also a jewelry artist that creates beautiful pieces in her brand new home studio in her new home.  She recently made a climate switch from desert living to mountain living and I see her going to all sorts of jewelry workshops to hone her already impressive skills.

1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?
Yesterday is gone. Today is a gift. What will you do with this precious time. Live today like it’s your last!

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?
It’s become easier to say no to taking on time consuming tasks or jobs that involve stress, anxiety and anger. I don’t need to start another business, be in a position of leadership (boards, committees, etc), join peer groups, or be the team mom. I am just focusing on me and my work these days and it sure is peaceful and satisfying.

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?
It’s a cliche but it’s true....don’t sweat the small stuff. 
I did a lot of work in my 40’s figuring out my undesirable traits, admitting them, and making a plan to correct/change them. I’m a perfectionist driven by my successes and achievements. “More is more” used to be my motto. So for me, it was always about the small stuff because I’m about the details. It wasn’t good enough to do the bare minimum or even to do the average job. However in the end, if this is your last day on earth, you have to ask yourself, would you seriously waste time worrying or fretting about “that thing”. Pick your battles better in your work, your life, your relationships and your expectations of self. Lastly remember what Voltaire said “the perfect is the enemy of the good”.

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature)
The time, teaching, advice, listening and love that I have invested in my child. There is nothing more important in the world than the happiness of your child. I feel a responsibility to make sure that my son, who is now a man, is a productive, empathetic, responsible, loving and joyful part of the greater community of the planet. I also wanted to do whatever it took to teach him how to treat others with respect, kindness and love. 

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?
Behavior: moving! Integrating daily workouts and movement has made me more productive, happy and healthy.
New Belief: no one needs to know your opinion and you don’t have to help others all the time. Just listen, nod and agree if you disagree. Voicing your opinion only changes their opinion about you and never about the topic or their passionately held beliefs.
Habit: stop and smell the roses. Seriously, stop to look at the sky, the buildings, the vegetation, etc. Visit more places by yourself, more often, so you have the quiet and you see the details because you are introspective. 
And stop eating carbs...they are evil!

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours?
There are very few things that I consider a failure. For me they are learning experiences and adventures that make me more successful the next time. If I had to pick one, I would have to say my first retail store because it was not as profitable as I wanted it to be. There are so many things that are part of having a profitable business but when you sign that lease, you have to do whatever it takes to make that location, size of space and business idea a success. That might mean extreme personal sacrifices of blood, sweat and tears but during that experience you will learn a ton. It’s that effort, drive and hard work that makes any experience a successful one. I loved my store and my customers and I learned so much from that experience that helped me make a more successful business with another store, a wholesale company, a marketing consulting company, and a coaching company. Each one lending New failure experiences to the perfect mix of ingredients. My newest entrepreneurial adventure is much more laid back. I’m launching a jewelry and design company. I’ve always been a designer/maker. I’m just manifesting it in a new way!

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?
I would have to say that they are experiences at museums. I recently visited Washington DC and spent many days at the museums. They were actually free but so enriching. Not enough Americans take advantage of these treasures. I try to add a day to visit museums in every city I visit!
I also love buying books and researching stories that give me historical info to help my work grow and evolve. 

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?
Step back, take some 4/7/8 breathing (Dr Weil), and remind myself that it’s just a speed bump. Slow down, reflect, understand it’s not a big deal in the scheme of life, and make a new plan. I also remind myself upon waking and throughout the day that this day is a blessing and gift. It is not promised. How do I want that day to exemplify what I want to Do, Be, Have, and Become? Am I in alignment?

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life?
Greg Levoy: Callings
Jack Canfield: The Success Principles
Seth Gooding: Linchpin (I think all high school age people should have to read this book)
Malcolm Gladwell: The Tipping Point


10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?
Take better care of you girl friendships. Keep in touch and follow through.
Follow through with your communications in all areas of life.
Keep family first, always. 
Wake up and give thanks for life. 
Say no more than you say yes. You need to take care of yourself first. 

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase mean to you?
I think “love of my life” can be cliche but you certainly can attract that romantic energy by knowing what you want. Most people don’t know what they want and wanting “love” is too vague. Knowing who you desire (just like knowing your target market) can lead to finding “the one”.
You can also have the love of your life through birth. My child truly is the love of my life. We are forever connected.
I do believe you can meet the love of your romantic life, and you know when you do. However it’s not enough. I believe we are not the same people in our 20’s as our 30’s etc. So we have to continue to work on ourselves, our relationships and our communication as we grow. I have been blessed with a husband who is not only my true love but my best friend too! Our love continues to grow and deepen because we put our relationship first and we work on ourselves individually and as a couple. 

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you)
I have sciatic nerve issues so I will be dedicating more time to stretching and strength training. As I’ve gotten more movement oriented I’ve also gotten stiffer which surprised me! Ah the joys of aging. Physical health is just as important as our mental health. Thanks Sherry for the stretching exercises. I can’t wait to integrate them into my daily habit. 
This week I am hitting my “fifth level”. I can only imagine what I will have learned and achieved at the “sixth level”.

Thank you for sharing Tonya!

XO

Titanium

 

Woman of the Week: Mai

Meet this weeks WOW, Mai.  I met her seven years ago through a friend and she came over for a visit.  We have stayed in touch all these years through the magic of Facebook.  This woman is the one who gave me the nickname "Titanium" and it has stuck with me all these years and in fact has even more meaning now then when she first told me about it.  She runs her own counseling business, is a talented artist and is raising three amazing kids with her husband.  

Thank you Mai for sharing with us!

1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Practice Acceptance.  I call the Serenity Prayer the most unused over spoken prayer in this world.  So many people say it.  So few practice it.  If more people used it and understood it then I believe there would be less anger in this world.  Learning to accept everything we can’t control and working on those things we can control take work and daily practice.  Eventually, it gives you peace of mind.  I’m sure this is what I would choose because I am in the depths of this practice.  Maybe in 10 years my answer would be different. 

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?

This may sound awful but personal requests for help (outside of my professional business).  I have always been a person who gives and wants to ‘fix’ everyone’s problems.  I would take on everyone’s problems and become so overwhelmed.  It took me a long time to be honest with myself as far as what I am able to give and what winds up depleting me or taking me away from my family.  I realized, late in life, I have to be happy, healthy and terrific in order to help other people.

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?

Do what you love not what is going to make you the most money…..unless money is what you love and then that’s you’re path and I’m probably not going to be able to talk you out of it.  Then I would say take your time.  These timelines we put on ourselves are ridiculous.  For example, “I have to have a million dollars before I’m 40!”  Says who?  I’ve seen young people stress out about graduating on time in college and it never made any sense to me.  Take your time and get the most out of it!  College is incredible and the knowledge you can obtain, not only in your field but others as well, is amazing!

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature)

Leaving a high paying job 3 years ago to balance out my life was the best investment I made.  I am challenged with meeting my bills but it doesn’t stress me out as much as working for a company demanding so much of my time and energy.  My kids are better for it.  My husband is better for it.  My disposition is incredibly improved.  Due to my change the people in my life were able to change as well.  I feel I should have left a long time ago but I’m a middle of road soul so my learning abilities aren’t quick.

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?

Acceptance.  I grew up in a Buddhist/Christian home but was told to search for my own beliefs.  I was told stories about each of the faiths.  I was allowed to attend any events of faith I wished.  I felt the most in tune with Buddhism and practice many of its teachings.  Acceptance is probably one of the most challenging things for people in our society.  Although it’s not a new belief or behavior it’s one I’m more focused on now in my life.  Being able to accept what we can control and what we can’t and not allowing bad or negative feelings to dictate our decisions is a big key to happiness; yet in our society it is not practiced well at all.  It takes awareness and mindfulness which I feel many people are out of touch with in this society.  I have hope and emit positive vibes towards it though.  I am hoping the newer generations (i.e. Z plus) have a better hold of the concept.  I’ve seen very hopeful signs with the new generations.

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours?

I don’t know if this is good or bad but I have so many failures in life to learn from that it’s difficult to choose.  I think the ones I think most about are my relationship failures and I mean everything from friends to family to acquaintances.  In my youth I just wanted so much acceptance and only as an adult can I look back and realize the mistakes I made and some of it is just downright embarrassing.  One of the strongest realizations I made in my 30s.  I saw how my gender tore each other down and realized I had participated in that for most of my life.  I decided I wasn’t going to tear down women any more but lift them up and I have been practicing that for almost 20 years.  I teach it to younger women and children in hopes we, as women, become more united and help support each other in all our endeavors. 

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?

Learned Optimism by Martin E.P. Seligman, also known as the father of Positive Psychology, changed my life.  Being able to focus on your strengths rather than your deficits to overcome difficulties in life is amazing.  I bought this more than 6 months ago but I purchased it at a time when I was going through a very difficult divorce and I was kind of lost.  It helped me love myself again and find answers to life.

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?

There’s what I should do and there’s what I do do….unfortunately. Sometimes I just zone out and avoid the work for a while but then I cause myself undue stress.  If I make myself meditate, do some square breathing and return to my work it helps immensely.  I also have to think positive thoughts and tell myself I can do this. 

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and It’s All Small Stuff: Simple Ways to Keep The Little Things From Taking Over Your Life by Richard Carlson

Learned Optimism by Martin E.P. Seligman

The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama

10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?

I don’t know if I completely understand this question.  Earlier in my life? Her life?  In my life, even though I probably thought I knew everything, I wasn’t capable of dispensing solid, good advice.  If I could go back in time I would advise all women (even myself) the following things – 1. Be good and support your gender at all times

2. Don’t EVER be ashamed of your love and emotions.  They ARE strengths NOT weaknesses.

3. Believe in yourself and stand strong.

4. The best, most fulfilling but also most challenging (at times) relationship you can have is with other women.  (It’s the saddest thing in the world when I hear women brag about not having women friends).

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?

So many things.  The love of my life could be my children.  It could be my husband.  It could be a moment in time.  Right now, having found someone who is so in tune with me and living a more balanced life it’s all of the above.  To me, I’ve always been surrounded by love but I was taught to be suspicious and negative towards it so only in my adulthood can I appreciate that I have always been a loving person, simply misguided at times.  I think the MOST important love of your life should be yourself….. not in a narcissistic way but in an ‘awareness’ type of way. 

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you)

I have a real aversion to financial anything and I know it’s a challenge for me.  I think if I learned to have more respect and acceptance to its importance it would improve my life. 

Thank you Mai for your insightful and enlightening responses.  So much truth there and some of what you said is what prompted me to start this site and create this series.  As women we need to uplift and support each other and provide space to be seen and heard.

XO

Titanium

Friday FIVE!

Friday FIVE!!

1:  Quote I'm pondering:  I am learning to love the sound of my feet walking away from things not meant for me.  Unknown

2:  Words this week:  catalyst:  an agent that speeds significant change or action.       dauntless:  incapable of being intimidated or subdued.    essence:  the most significant element, quality or aspect of a thing or person.

3:  In my ears:  George Thorogood & the Destroyers, a little rock and roll to soothe what ails.

4:  Book:  The E-Myth Revisited by Michael E. Gerber, All about why small businesses fail and what to do to change that.

5:  Captivated by:  My granddaughter

Here is a little tasty treat, because chocolate!

https://thebigmansworld.com/2018/04/05/paleo-vegan-chocolate-coconut-crunch-bars-keto-low-carb/

an extra from an exchange on Facebook: 

Feminism doesn't mean we want to get rid of all penises, we still need and want penises. (said under the breath - some are more deserving of preservation than others).  Best comment:  especially not the tiny angry ones

XO

Titanium

Friday FIVE!

Friday FIVE!!

What caught my attention this week.....

1:  In my ears:  Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown on Audible.  I am listening to this again.  I love her words and hearing her voice say them makes them even more powerful.

2:  On my mind:  Time... How to make better use of it so that I have more time for myself.

3:  Purchase:  a new comfy pair of sweat pants (aka adult pajamas)

4:  Practice:  Functional movements mixed in with my yoga practice and teaching.  Never underestimate the importance of a strong core, drawing in towards center.  It solves so many of the body aches and pains.  (new videos coming soon!)

5:  My beach:  getting back to my morning beach walks, no matter how poorly I slept the night before.  Beach report anyone?

Here's a little tidbit I'm going to try this weekend.  Cheers to the freaking weekend!

https://www.thissavoryvegan.com/vegan-buffalo-cauliflower-tacos/  

XO

Titaniumb

Woman of the Week: Kelly

This week we celebrate Kelly.  Another long time friend from my high school days.  She has like me been on a journey to learn more about the power of food for good health and healing.  She has a son with MS and has learned that pharmaceuticals that can be more poison than healing with chronic illness.  Learn more about her story below.

1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?  

I would love for a giant billboard to read, “Food DOES make a difference!  Eat More Plants!”

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?

In recent years, I’ve become much better at saying no to foods that don’t promote health.  I can easily walk by junk food without feeling the need to eat it.

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?

Take time to be in the moment and enjoy your youth.  While I believe a career is important, find a healthy balance between your work life and your personal life. Trust me, in hindsight; you will be thankful!

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature)

My best and most worthwhile investment has definitely been in my children and family.  Loving and nurturing them is what makes me the happiest.

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?

As you have probably figured out by now, a healthy diet is extremely important to me.  Nine years ago, at the age of 20, our son Austin was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis.  His presenting symptom was something called Optic Neuritis, which has left him legally blind. After watching him struggle with several prescribed, and poisonous in my opinion, pharmaceuticals, I began to research how important a healthy diet is for MS sufferers.  Seven years ago, our entire family went vegan to support him and it has made a huge difference for all of us!  It truly has been an incredible, positive journey, and we are so grateful.

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours? My favorite failure was when I didn’t get the initial job that I interviewed for at the company that I currently work for, Vitamix.  I knew that I wanted to work for this company, and remained steadfast in my pursuit. Later, a much better opportunity presented itself, and I secured the position. I’m so thankful that I didn’t get that initial job! 

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?

The Instant Pot is the first item that comes to mind when I think of a positive purchase that costs less than $100.  If you don’t have one, make the investment.  You won’t be disappointed.

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?

I have learned over the years that when I begin to feel overwhelmed and unfocused, I need to decline extracurricular activities and commitments and allow myself to have downtime.  It’s usually a sign that I’m overcommitted.

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influenced your life?

The book that has most influenced my life is the Holy Bible.  I believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and thank him daily for the abundance of blessings in my life. 

10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?

The one piece of advice that I would give a young woman today would be to remain true to yourself and your beliefs.

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?

I believe that you can have more than one true love in a lifetime.  What makes the difference, in my opinion, is dedication to the person that you love. That’s what defines true love to me.

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you)

I want to see a complete cure for MS!  I believe it’s out there with all of my heart. 

Thank you Kelly for sharing a portion of your life with us.  Food is indeed powerful medicine!

XO

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Monday Muse: Eleanor Macnair

This month we welcome Eleanor Macnair to the Monday Muse interview series.  She is an artist who uses PlayDoh to recreate photographs.  Yes the PlayDoh of your youth used to create photographs, which she photographs and then tears apart to start all over again.  I can't remember how I found her, but I was drawn to her use of the medium and her skill at recreating the works of art.  When I contacted her about potentially being a part of this interview series, she kindly agreed to participate.  She has her work in galleries all over the world and lives in England.  I hope you enjoy reading her interview and I hope to convince her to be a guest on the podcast to dive a little deeper.   

1). How did your journey to re-create photos with Playdoh start and what was your inspiration?

Strangely it all started at a photographic pub quiz in the summer of 2013. The quiz was run by artists MacDonaldStrand – and one of the rounds was to remake a photograph in Play-Doh. So I really borrowed their idea, but they don’t seem to mind! There followed a chain of events which lead to me experimenting by posting a few images on tumblr which quickly proved popular. It’s never been an intentional art project but more of an experiment – although I never thought it would go this far. One book and nearly 6 solo exhibitions later I’m still not sure where it will end.

2). How many containers of Playdoh do you go through in a year?

After I have shot the models I take them apart and reuse the play-doh. The practical reason for this is play-doh does not last for long out of the jar – I usually have about 24 hours maximum to work on a model before the edges crack and dry and they start to fall apart. I like the idea of the models being ephemeral and disposable – a sideways comment on our disposable, throwaway age. The result of re-using the play-doh means that I don’t get through too many pots – apart from white play-doh as the colours can bleed into each other and so the white needs to be refreshed every so often. I think in all I have about 300 pots. Some of them I have been reusing since the start of the project.

3). When you feel your creativity is lacking or unfocused, what do you do?

Each model takes around 7 hours and then the time to shoot afterwards, so it’s quite a feat of concentration. I usually find the most difficult thing is to decide which image to do. I always allocate the time to the project and then just make myself sit down and do it – so there is personal discipline involved. I like to listen to podcasts as I model as it helps to keep my mind focused.

4). How has failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a “favorite failure” of yours?

I’m never fully happy with the finished images but I always (or nearly always!) post the models on my Instagram and my blog anyway. I think it’s important to show where you go wrong as well as the times when you nail it. People get scared to experiment and feel that they can only project a perfect image online – I think it’s more interesting to show both sides.

5). If you could have a billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Perhaps ‘Do as you would be done by’. My parents were never religious but I remember my mum told me at a young age that she kind of believed in this saying, and it’s stuck with me.

6). What is your biggest problem, stumbling block or issue in your daily life?

Not enough hours in the day and not enough hours for sleep.

7). Who inspires you to be your best self?

Everyone! Friends, people I read about in books, see on the street. I think being open to many different ways of living and being and realizing that none is necessarily right or wrong – just finding what works for you.

8). What would you be doing right now if money wasn’t part of the equation?

I would probably move to the countryside, travel more and spend all day making play-doh models! My income is currently from freelance work combined with play-doh print sales – so I’d like to give up the other freelance work. But then again, I think that grafting is good for you. I suppose I try not to fantasize about having lots of money because it would make me unhappy with what I’m lucky enough to already have.

9). What is an unusual habit or an absurd thing that you love?

I’ve done ballet from a very young age and I’m not sure if it’s absurd or not but it’s something that if I no longer do it I feel like a part of me is missing. I love the physicality of it.

10). What three things are foremost in your mind right now?

I’m due to have a baby in June so that is pretty forefront in my mind right now… and international politics aside I’m wondering what play-doh model to make next and what to make for dinner.. So nothing at all profound!  

Thank you Eleanor for sharing a glimpse into your process.  As for your answer to question #10, I can assure that having a baby is a most profound experience, I wish you all the best.

XO

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Friday FIVE!

Friday FIVE!!  

1:  Book I'm listening to:  Launch by Jeff Walker, all about launching a business online.  I just love audible, I know it isn't quite reading but it really does allow me to 'read' while I drive, walk, work etc

2:  What is on repeat in  my head:  Moana songs...  My granddaughter loves this movie and I do too but she will ask to watch it several times a day and then I hear the songs in my head for days afterward.  

3:  Podcast I'm loving:  GoalDigger with Jenna Kutcher.  A photographer, online educator and someone who is a champion for body positivity.  

4:  Watching:  The new season of Westworld.  The first show had me feeling like I was in someone else's dream that I stumbled on and trying to figure it out.  

5:  Dreaming of:  Italy and wanting to plan a yoga retreat there for next spring.  I think I found the spot, now who wants to join me?

That is it for this week, except for a little granola recipe that I have been having fun with:

https://www.yousaytomatocooking.com/recipe/gems-gorgeous-granola/

XO

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Woman of the Week: Lynn

Please welcome this weeks WOW, Lynn.  I have known and admired Lynn for over 40 years.  We went to high school together and I was always so impressed with who she was, how genuine and kind she was and I thought she was so strong at a time in life when so many young people are struggling with knowing who they were.  Please join me in celebrating her today and appreciate the honesty in her story.  When I ask the women in my focus group to do these interviews, it requires some of them to step way outside their comfort zone and many don't understand the impact that their stories and wisdom hold. I am in awe of them all for the lives they live, the stories they hold in their hearts and their willingness to trust me to share all of this with the world outside the safety of our group.  

 1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

"BE THE REASON SOMEONE SMILES"  I believe any big or small gesture of love, praise, kindness or time, can make a difference in another's life either in the moment, their day or possibly their lives.  Your own life will grow in joy and purpose the more you show love in action.

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?

I'm becoming better at saying, "no," to my, "no's."  In the past if something was asked of me that I felt was entirely out of my comfort level, I wouldn't hesitate or find excuses to say no.  I've been working on taking fear and self doubt out of the equation and learning to tell myself, "I can or should do this."   Trust me, it doesn't work every time! :))

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?

When the paychecks start rolling in and you suddenly feel rich, don't start living beyond your means.  Live frugally for a few years and start saving for a house, contribute or open a retirement account and start making monthly payments for any student loans you might have.  You will be so much further ahead in the long run and have something to show for your hard work and sacrifice, versus, shiny new things that become dull overtime.

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature)

My family, friends and faith.  I would be poor in spirit without any one of them.  My investment in them has enriched my life greatly.

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?

By staying in consistent relationship with God.  I do this with prayer, praise, bible study, volunteering in church, and community.  Respecting all of God's creations, forgiving, asking for forgiveness, kindness, and humility.  I truly believe ones time, talent and treasure should be shared with others.   I have always been a Christian believer but my faith journey was much closer to the starting line than the finish line.  Through my actions of participating more consciously in my relationship with God, I have more hope, peace, love and joy in my life.

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours?

My never ending attempts at weight loss.  I come close to achieving my goal, then suddenly, sabotage rears it's ugly head.  Each failure has given me insight about my self, my triggers, my knowledge of good and bad nutrition, new ways to cook, new foods I have never heard of or tasted, so in that respect, it's not just lbs. I'm gaining!!:))  I've recently changed my priority for shedding extra weight, health before vanity, maybe this will fool the saboteur in me.

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?

A foam roller.  It has helped me and my husband find relief with the aches and pains in our backs and hips.  

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?

What I do is determined by the situation that is causing these issues.  One I have always been predictable for doing is going straight to the junky/comfort foods in our house and if not desirable enough, drive to the nearest fast food drive thru.  Other things I do if feeling deeply burdened by life, is to write a letter to God, take a quiet walk with my thoughts, swim laps in our pool (season permitting) until I feel a calm come over me, there's just something with me and water, or I talk with my husband about it.  Sometimes all of the above in the same day! 

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life?

I love books, one of my favorite places to be is a library or bookstore.  Three years ago, I joined a book club, we are called the, Chic-lits.  Many books over the years have influenced, educated, brought me to tears or laughter.  What are they you ask?  Fiction, non fiction, biographies and self help books from gardening, parenting, cooking, dieting, relationships, spirituality and more, but as I write this, no one particular book or name stands out to me, sorry!  I do however, have an answer to, "books I've given," only because it's been more recent.  I have given those artistic adult coloring books more than once, along with a big box of colored pencils and a sharpener to my mother, 87 yrs. old, my mother in law, 82 yrs. old, and my friend who will be 90 yrs. old next month.  All three of them, quite often, show me their coloring masterpieces!:))

10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life

Try to consciously define your own identity to yourself such as; your likes, dislikes, morals, values, goals.  Without those you may find yourself wrapped up into some one else's and wonder how you got so off track.  

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?

I think that phrase has always been connected in more of the romantic sense.  I believed in that theory for many years.  My first love came at twelve, we eventually married when we were twenty one. We divorced twelve years and two daughters later, quite shockingly to me.  It took a lot of healing over the years to realize he didn't need to be the only love I could have, I could have better.  I met someone, opened my heart and eventually married.  We will be celebrating our nineteenth wedding anniversary this November.  Love is all around us, we just need to be willing to accept and give love back and enjoy the unpredictable ride love can be.  

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you)

If I found a Genie in bottle I would wish for him/her to have the answers to curing all cancers.  My grandson Anthony just finished 3 1/2 years of grueling pain for the treatment of Leukemia.  My prayers are for him to stay in remission and my hope is that his and all other cancers will be eradicated sooner than later by endless resources of money, knowledge and dedication to finding the cure.  Of course there is endless problems to be solved in this world and I pray for those too, daily, but selfishly, I found the Genie and at this time in my life this is what most haunts me.  

Thank you Lynn for sharing your story and your dreams.

Check back next week for the next WOW and her story.

XO

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Tidbit Tuesday

In my attempt to find more time in my day to get the things accomplished I need to, I also am trying to find more time for myself.  I am in a place where I feel my creativity is lacking and needs some inspiration and just doing at least one thing a day that is just for me.  I have a few suggestions for you if you are looking for some inspiration for yourself.

1:  Meditate, even if it is just for 5 minutes a day.  There are plenty of apps out there to help, or you can sign up for my email list and get access to my guided meditation page.  Right now there are two to choose from and they last about 10 minutes.

2:  Write, whether that is in a journal, keeping a gratitude log, or writing letters (not emails or texts but a real letter), or any other sort of writing (a book, a blog post, or just free form writing of your ideas).  Give yourself 15-30 minutes just to sit and write.

3:  Color, draw, paint

4:  Dance party to your favorite music

5:  yoga, either in a classroom, from a video or online or just doing a few stretches or rolling with a foam roller or a set of massage balls.

Many times we get so busy doing all of the things for everyone else, our job, driving, all the 'shoulds' we feel we need to do that we forget to put ourselves as a priority.  We have to fill up our cup so that we have something to pour out.

Make time for YOU, whatever feels good to you in the moment!

XO

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Thoughts on the Day 4/26/18

Every next level of your life will demand a different version of you...

When we level up, we bring all that we have been to help create that new version of ourselves.  The reality is that we all change with time, circumstances, good things, the hard and while those changes may be so small as to seem imperceptible, those subtle shifts alter who you were before you walked through what was on your path.  

When I look back at my medical mystery tour (soon to be four years in June), my journey started with conventional medicine.  What I learned the hard way was something I knew before on a different level, but this time conventional medicine and my doctor failed me.  While his actions helped to save my life in the beginning, his refusal to listen to my feedback about the side effects I was having from the med he prescribed and his insistence that I stay on the med put me in further jeopardy.  His refusal to take me seriously about the side effects, his admittance that he didn't realize that some of what I was telling him was a side effect (I offered to send him links for his review) and the fact that he didn't truly listen to me and instead chose to keep me on a med I was having a severe allergic reaction to started me on a downward spiral.  Not to mention that I learned about scores of class action law suits surrounding the drug (Xarelto) and the fact that there isn't an antidote for it.  Yes a different doctor told me about that.  I was lucky I didn't end up dead.

Instead what I did get gifted with as a result of his negligence was 2+ years of pain, fear, more conventional medicine and care that further destroyed my health and at one point I seriously was contemplating suicide.  Luckily for me a friend pointed out that prednisone can totally fuck with your head and cause those kinds of thoughts and the fact that my histamine levels were so high and the hives so bad for so long, I had lost all hope of ever getting better.  I had just spent 8 months getting $4000.00 injections each month, to no avail.  

What kept me going was the determination and resolute belief that there had to be a better way than just covering up the symptoms with one more nasty ass med that was worse than the one before it.  I knew that in order to heal I had to find the visionary healthcare professional that would look for the root cause resolution and use the healing power of food, supplements and low impact meds to help me heal.  There were many who didn't believe that I knew my own body, doctors who told me they knew better than I did what was right for my own body.  Family and friends who didn't understand just how bad it really was and I continued to retreat in an effort to just survive another day on little sleep and the constant wonder of just how bad the day was going be.

So I called on something I wrote to myself several years ago to remind myself that I did in fact truly know my own body, my own strength and what was right for me...  "I'm gathering everyday the strength, power, endurance and wisdom to slay the naysayers."  It kept me moving toward what I knew in my gut, my poor destroyed gut, that I had to be determined and dauntless to get past that histamine hell and start to heal.  It took a little over two years but I did finally find the right care, the right med, the right foods, the right supplements and I have been improving every day ever since.  There have been a few small setbacks but as of right now it is looking like I will be able to start taking lower doses of my current med and eventually be able to get off the med completely. 

This was a path of discovery that I never would have willingly signed on for, something I wouldn't have wished on my worst enemy, but something evidently the Universe deemed necessary for me to experience.  This medical mystery tour honed my desire to overcome and rise to the task of boldly taking charge of my own health and being the catalyst for my own healing.  My functional medical specialist told me at my last visit that she always loves to see me because I am proof to her that functional medicine does in fact work.  I share my story because I hope it might help someone else suffering with auto immune issues, allergy issues and perhaps lack of quality care find the help that can change their life like is has mine.  Perhaps even if you are not suffering from a chronic health condition, there might be something in my story that sparks something in your to rise to whatever task is before you and get past what may be holding you back.  That my story may be a catalyst for change in your life on any level that you seek.  

The more we share our stories, the more we learn about one another, the more wisdom is shared and the better chance for connection.  It is what spurred me to create my website and share not only my stories but stories of others, because we all deserve to be seen, heard, supported and celebrated.

XO

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Woman of the Week: Sheila

This week we celebrate Sheila, someone I have known for 40 years.  A mom to three girls, a homeschooler, a volunteer and a grandmother.  Sheila, thank you for sharing your wisdom with all of us.   

1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?  Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates His great love for us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” I find this scripture to be astounding & a wonderful illustration of love.

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?   I'm a helper by nature & get satisfaction by coming alongside others, rather than being the leader. However, over the years my "helping" or volunteering began created stress instead. When my husband was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer in spring of 2016 I was forced to limit my helping to just my husband and immediate family. Now that he's cancer free I understand not to over-book myself in volunteering. 

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?  I'd probably tell them something similar to what I told my own daughters in their college years: Focus on your strengths, work on your weaknesses & always be eager to learn something new. Your outlook on life will influence your decisions & your future, so stay focused on the good in people & situations.

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature) Homeschooling my three daughters has by far been the most worthwhile thing I’ve ever done. Yes, there was also struggle, doubts & times to re-evaluate my commitment, but it was such an adventure (kind of a rebellious adventure) that kept us close as a family throughout their childhoods. Despite (or because of?) my “patchwork” approach to homeschooling, two are successful college grads & my youngest has two years left to complete at the U of O. All three are strong, confident young women who still like to hang out with their momma.

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?  Life in general is so much easier when I am thankful. Learning to be intentional in being thankful, especially in hard circumstances, has brought me closer to family & to the Lord. I've always been a very positive & thankful person, but after reading the book, One Thousand Gifts, I have tried to find something to be thankful (grateful) for each day. Some days this was quite hard, especially while my husband was going through chemo & his outlook was uncertain, but just the process of saying thank-you to God for small things was so helpful.

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours?

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?  A few years ago, I started planting flowers & small perennials in pots of different sized on my patio, which I can see them from my kitchen & family room windows. I have found that the process of planning, planting & tending to these flowers really, really makes me happy. Who knew? Just looking outside as I wash dishes from spring to fall makes me smile and uplifts my mood. My planted pots are a hit with the squirrels & hummingbirds, too. 

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do?  When I'm overwhelmed with life I usually unplug from social media, clear off my schedule, pray about the situation & talk it over with my husband over a glass of wine, depending on the situation. If weather permits, going on a short hike or spend time outdoors helps to clear my mind & allows me to refocus.

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life?  As a follower of Jesus, the Bible has been the greatest influence on my life. I am an avid reader & book lover.  My favorite books are usually children's or middle-grade books, which is probably because I read most every book my girls did while homeschooling. Powell's used bookstore in Portland is like a candy store to me! I love to buy books for my grandsons in California, my new granddaughter in Seattle & my nieces & nephews. I've even managed to recommend a couple grown-up books to my 25 year old, which she actually liked.

10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life? Don't care so much about what others think of you or at least don't let it stop you from doing what you want to do in life. As long as you are kind & generous, you don't need to be concerned about fitting into someone else's pigeon hole or expectations. (I wish I had heard this as a teenager.) 

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you? I think people can have many "loves" throughout their lives. Sometimes we don't actually realize how important (or less important) those loves are/were until we are older & wiser. The love of my life, however, is definitely Bill, my husband of 33 years. It hasn't always been an easy road, but at this point we can look back on our journey be grateful for each other & solid in our commitment for the future.

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you) My biggest concern in my life right now is dealing with my aging parents & their medical needs. My dear Dad has Parkinson's and dementia and my Mom is having a hard time realizing that she IS actually elderly. We recently moved my Dad into a care facility & my Mom into an independent retirement home, where neither are quite happy. I don't think there's really anything that will help. It's just a hard time for them & for my sister & I as we do what we can to make these last years as comfortable as possible.  

Thank you again Sheila!

XO

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Monday Mantra

A lot more love and a whole lot less worry, give yourself this gift today.  

XO

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Friday FIVE!!

Friday Five!! 4/13/18

1:  Quote:  Open your heart, fling your hopes high, set your dreams aloft.  I am here to hold your hand.  ~Maya Angelou

2:  Listening:  Chandler - The Sages & Fools, a recent release by an 18 year old singer I found on Instagram.  She plays the guitar, ukulele, keyboard and does some great covers on her Insta feed.  

3:  Reading:  In my quest to learn more about time and how to be effective and productive and still have time for just me I am reading The 7 habits of highly effective people.  And diving in a little to my Anatomy Trains book which is really a textbook and a very chewy read.

4:  Watching:  Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee on Netflix.  Jerry Seinfeld, funny people and cool cars.

5:  Dreaming of flip flops, warm weather, walks on the beach without a jacket and lots and lots of low tides on Eagle Harbor.  

I'm really ready for the weekend, I hope you have something fun planned with people you enjoy AND time for yourself to just do whatever feels good in the moment.

XO

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Woman of the Week: Cynthia

Please join me in celebrating Cynthia or as I call her Cyn this week for our WOW.  We met in 1996 I believe when we both worked for a small start up airline in Seattle.  We have stayed in touch all of these years.  She was the first person to tell me not to try to "drive it" and the first time she said that I didn't understand at all.  Well I was still a lot clueless in my 30's.  She's been a touchstone and a guide and confidante for all of these years.  And Cyn, I left the last part you included because I felt it was as important as all the rest of the wisdom that you shared.  Love you large!

1:  If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?

Do it – but check and alter your attitude if need be. 

Always do anything with love and by choice. 

2:  In the last five years what have you become better at saying no to?

I say “no” more to myself actually.  “No Cyn, you don’t want to skip Tai Chi this morning.  No Cyn, you need to get to your massage, the other things can wait for 90 minutes.”  So I’ve been saying “yes” to self care by saying “no” to that little voice that tries to get me to focus on things that truly can wait.

3:  What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the "real world"?

Focus on what you want in 5 years from now and keep that focus yet stay open to twists and turns you might find even more interesting as you go.  Nothing is cast in stone unless you say it is.

Keep a budget and plan for some fun within it. 

Network, network, network. 

Exercise and eat right.

4:  What is one of the best or most worthwhile investments you've ever made?  (it doesn't need be financial in nature)

The time I’ve spent with my daughter, grandchildren and friends and family.  The time I’ve spent studying coaching.

5:  In the last five years, what new belief, behavior, or habit has most improved your life?

I don’t have to do it all.  Ask for help.  Be ready for it to come from anywhere, even if you ask one person and they won’t or cannot, keep looking for support.

6:  How has a failure, or apparent failure set you up for later success?  Do you have a favorite failure of yours?

All failures have taught me oodles. Everything is connected.  Fail fast and quick, learn and adapt from it.  Stay curious, even when you think you can’t.  My favorite failure is more about failing and staying ‘stuck’ and not moving up and onward.  It’s okay to sit down by the side of the road and throw a pity party and blame everyone, but the less time you spend there the better time you will have giving yourself your power back to move it on and kick it up a notch.  Lean in to it – learn from it.

7:  What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months or in recent memory?  

Seriously, Alexa – Echo Dot.  She keeps track of my grocery lists, to do lists, appointment reminders better than even my iPhone does – because I can holler at her and review later, end of day, start of day.  That $30 was a good choice.  

8:  When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, what do you do? 

I breathe.  I sit in as much silence as I can find.  I get up and move about and change my physical view of things, do the dishes, play with the dog.  I take a break – whatever that looks like.  Then I come back, reprioritize using a list or a self-talk and get back on it or reschedule.

9:  What is the book (or books) you've given most as a gift and why?  Or what are one to three books that have greatly influence your life? 

What You Think of Me is None of My Business – and The Power of TED – Einstein’s Dreams – and many many more.  The Bible has been a great guide, especially Roman’s, the Corinthians and a few others.  There’s an old Sufi book I loved, but can’t find it right now!

10:  What is one piece of advice you would give to a woman that you wish you knew earlier in life?

Love your body, love your mind, be kind, manage your anger (it’s just your fear in disguise) and absolutely be your best self, every day. 

11:   What do you think about the theory of "the love of your life", what does that phrase me to you?  

I have a hundred loves of my life if not more.  Life is one long continuous stream of consciousness and as I’ve moved through it, I’m not afraid to have as many loves of my life (that life in that time) as is warranted.  Is there “one” love of my life?  So many ways to show and be and receive love – grandchildren, children, partners, co-workers – I have oodles of loves of my life.  As to the spouse/mate kind – I’ve seen it for others but not for myself yet – every man I’ve ever loved, during the time I’ve loved him – is/was the love of my life.   I think, throughout it all, I am the greatest love of my own life.

12:  What is something that you would find most helpful in your life right now?  (what would be the best problem solved for you) 

Aged, ailing parents and the system is so far beyond broken.  If someone could project manage and gain the right staff and people and surroundings for our elderly – that would solve about 100% of my current issues.  
 

It’s 722 am and I can’t think of anything else – Thanks for asking Digi-goddess – not sure it will help or do anyone but me any good to have gone through your questions – but it was insightful and made me think.  Thank you sweetie – hope you are feeling better soon.  More littlest lovey pics with you – and beach reports when able – LOVE to see you and hear you!!

Please join me next week for a brand new feature, Monday Muse.  I will be reaching out to women who inspire me that I have met through various points in time in my life and from all walks of life.  I hope to help compliment the Woman of the Week series and keep introducing amazing women from all over the world.

XO

Titanium

Titanium Tidbit Tuesday

Using 2 yoga blocks we can work to open both the shoulders and the front of the body.  Good for relieving pain from too much computer work, a great way to relax before bed and open space for the shoulders and the breath to move.

Friday FIVE!!

That's right it's that day again FRIDAY!!  Here's this weeks FIVE!!

1:  Quote:  I wish to live a life that causes my soul to dance inside my body...  The old dancer in me really likes the metaphor.  Is your soul dancing inside your body?  If not, what could you change or tweak to give it dancing shoes?

2:  Watching:  The last Fixer Upper episode aired and while I can back and re-watch the old ones, I was looking for some other inspiration.  I found the show Good Bones on HGTV.  I don't watch a lot of TV but this is a good show to watch before bed, no monsters, no killing and pretty houses to dream about.

3:  Listening:  The latest in the Robicheaux series from James Lee Burke on Audible, The Online Marketing Marketing Made Easy podcast with Amy Porterfield and the Moana soundtrack with the baby in the car.

4:  Inspiration:  My Functional Medical specialist..  She told me this week that I am proof for her that functional medicine does work.  She wonders sometimes if she is actually making a difference for some of her patients.  When she met me, my trajectory was in serious peril for my health and in just 14 months we worked together to change not just my trajectory but to start me well on the path to healthy living with minimal pharmaceutical intervention.

5:  Focus:  My ladies in my Unapologetically You Mastermind Focus group and learning more about them, their lives, their mindset, their wisdom and what is forefront on their minds right now.  

And the bonus extra, we are at some point going to have warmer weather and while I love a good burger made of beef, this recipe has me curious about whether it can be as good as it looks.  

https://cafedelites.com/blt-balsamic-chicken-avocado-feta-salad/

Have a good weekend!!

XO

Titanium